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Just The Aunt
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Username: Auntof13
Post Number: 3637
Registered: 1-2004
| | Posted on Monday, January 16, 2006 - 9:54 pm: | 
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Does anyone know who / what this is? There is a charge for $53 for this on my American Express Card. Only problem, I can't remember any plcae in South Orange I could have been in where I would have spent this much money, or even used my American Express Card.
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Old and Gray
Citizen
Username: Pastmyprime
Post Number: 305
Registered: 2-2005
| | Posted on Monday, January 16, 2006 - 9:56 pm: |
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Zayda's on Irvington Ave maybe...buy enough meat and maybe?
Why don't you call Amex and ask for the street address of the biller? |
susan1014
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Username: Susan1014
Post Number: 1282
Registered: 3-2002
| | Posted on Monday, January 16, 2006 - 10:08 pm: |
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Was it you who organized sending a gift of food a few weeks ago after seeingeyemom died?
If so, that's probably it, since Zayda's is the local kosher place. |
Just The Aunt
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Username: Auntof13
Post Number: 3638
Registered: 1-2004
| | Posted on Monday, January 16, 2006 - 10:50 pm: |
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That's it Susan! I thought it was a different name! And my Amex Statement has it as a 'Super Saver Grocer.' That's what threw me off! Thanks!
Glad I didn't dispute the charge with Amex. I had asked if anyone wanted to go in on something with me. The place told me they were getting a lot of calls for orders for SEM's family, so I'm thinking people did things on their own. Maybe it was a little too complicated to send something as a group.
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GlassJoe
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Username: Glass_joe
Post Number: 74
Registered: 6-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 7:33 pm: |
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That's right make sure everyone remembers you organized a gift drive! You really should find a new avenue for your ridiculousness.
If I had "strange" credit card charges, I would call the company prior to broadcasting it on MOL.
Hobby Hints: model shipbuilding, sewing, rocketry |
susan1014
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Username: Susan1014
Post Number: 1292
Registered: 3-2002
| | Posted on Thursday, January 19, 2006 - 11:21 pm: |
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Back off Joe...she wasn't self-promoting. I mentioned her act of charity in helping answer her question. |
Just The Aunt
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Username: Auntof13
Post Number: 3670
Registered: 1-2004
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 3:38 am: |
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You know what Joe 'bite me!' I did call Amex and they told me it was a 'Grocer.' Considering
1) I didn't shop at a 'grocer' in South Orange
2) I couldn't remember anywhere in South Orange I used my card,
3) being the time of night it was I couldn't call the establishment to ask them any questions.
And 4) Since I had a recent problem with Ebay and my Paypal account, which is tied into this card; I wanted to know.
After I canceled the card I thought someone on MOL would know what the business was so I'd know without having to wait until the next day.
Excuse me if I had forgotten. |
Greeneyes
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Username: Greeneyes
Post Number: 708
Registered: 8-2001
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 4:53 am: |
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Excuse me JTA but I am confused.
You titled your post Zayda, indicating that you knew the charge was from Zayda and not some place called Super Saver Grocer, right? Am I missing something? If your Amex bill said Super Saver Grocer, wouldn't you have titled your post Super Saver Grocer and not Zayda? |
Just The Aunt
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Username: Auntof13
Post Number: 3674
Registered: 1-2004
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 5:21 am: |
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Greeneyes
My American Express Statement actually says "Zayda's Super Value South Orange." When I called Amex to question the charge they told me it was a 'Super Saver Grocer.' I think of Costco or BJ's when I think 'Super Saver Grocer,' Or a big Shop-Rite like the ones in Livingston or West Orange.
So since my Amex Statement had 'Zayda ...' that's the title I used. Amex also told me sometimes companies bill under a parent company. I was thinking someone might have used my card at a restaurant somewhere that happened to have a location in town. Or that a restaurant in town might also be owned by someone with a supermarket.
I had forgotten about sending the platter because my family usually sends a fruit basket, or drops food off at the family's home.
Since I had only met SEM once (actually twice), someone told me it would have been inappropriate for me to go to the service or when the family sat Shiva. Luckily someone online mentioned any food sent needed to be Kosher. I'm not sure how I found Zayda's. I think someone on MOL mentioned it. But the night I posted about my Amex Card I couldn't find the thread with the arrangements in it.
Another thing that threw me off when I got my statement, it wasn't for the amount I thought it was going to be for. I was expecting the charge to be more. |
Greeneyes
Citizen
Username: Greeneyes
Post Number: 709
Registered: 8-2001
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 5:28 am: |
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Gotcha.
Why are you awake? Can't sleep or are you an early riser? |
Meandtheboys
Citizen
Username: Meandtheboys
Post Number: 2698
Registered: 12-2004
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 7:01 am: |
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Wow, glassjoe, that was particularly vicious. Maybe it's you that needs to find another hobby--something like torturing small helpless animals might be right up your ally.
JTA, can't imagine why you'd feel the need to defend yourself against someone as downright ugly as that. The "bite me" alone would have been sufficient, in my mind. |
Just The Aunt
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Username: Auntof13
Post Number: 3675
Registered: 1-2004
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 7:26 am: |
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Greeneyes-
Honestly? I never went to sleep last night. I had just gotten in from driving up and back from Warwick NY, having dropped everything to leave at 10pm to say 'good-bye' to my father I was told wouldn't make it through the night. I wouldn't have come back until later today, but my friend had to go out of town unexpectedly herself and I have her child at my house who I had to get to school this morning. My brother in law couldnt do it because he had to take my nephew's to school.
Me you're right about my comment. But I am very stressed out and I over reacted. Maybe Dave can pull that note? |
Meandtheboys
Citizen
Username: Meandtheboys
Post Number: 2700
Registered: 12-2004
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 7:42 am: |
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Don't get me wrong JTA, you were fully justified in your reaction. Just seems like a complete waste of your time and energy. |
susan1014
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Username: Susan1014
Post Number: 1295
Registered: 3-2002
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 9:41 am: |
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JTA,
Our thoughts are with you and your family. |
Greeneyes
Citizen
Username: Greeneyes
Post Number: 710
Registered: 8-2001
| | Posted on Friday, January 20, 2006 - 10:54 pm: |
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JTA,
I'm so sorry about your father. |
Matt Foley
Citizen
Username: Mattfoley
Post Number: 526
Registered: 6-2004
| | Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2006 - 5:33 pm: |
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Back off Joe. Or feel the wrath of Foley! |
soresident
Citizen
Username: Soresident
Post Number: 323
Registered: 10-2001
| | Posted on Saturday, January 21, 2006 - 6:12 pm: |
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"Since I had only met SEM once (actually twice), someone told me it would have been inappropriate for me to go to the service or when the family sat Shiva."
It is often difficult knowing how to respond when customs regarding death are different from the traditions with which we are most familiar. For future reference, it would not have been at all inappropriate for you to have attended the funeral service in this case, and a shiva call would also have been perfectly appropriate had you wished to go. Your gesture in sending food from a kosher establishment in keeping with the family's preferences was most gracious and no doubt deeply appreciated.
JTA- sorry about your father. |
Just The Aunt
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Username: Auntof13
Post Number: 3679
Registered: 1-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, January 22, 2006 - 4:43 am: |
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Ooops. While I appreciate everyone's concern I goofed in the way I worded my post big time! . At the time I posted the original note my father hadn't died. He wasn't expected to make it through the night Thursday. He wasn't even expected to last the 2 hours it would take me to get to the hospital.
The doctors and nurses were so sure of this, my sister and brother who had spent the day up there and had just gotten home, turned around and went back up. They had been up there most of the day Thursday; but by the time they had gotten home, my dad's blood pressure dropped significantly. This happened after my brother in law (who was less the 15 minutes from the hospital) had turned around to come get me because my mom thought the roads were dangerous for me to drive at night! So we now had my brother and sister already home getting ready to turn around to go back and my brother in law almost here to get me!
Unbelievably my dad seemed to perk up slightly when he realized I was there. His blood pressure which was something like 48 / 20 even rose slightly. When my brother in law, brother, sister and I left to go back home (my mom decided to come home too) Thursday night Friday morning, we were still told he would most likely not make it through the night. (thus the posting of my note).
If my mom didn't have to figure out what the regulations were, my brother didn't need to be on a job site, my having to be home for my friend's child I was supposed to be taking care of, I am sure we would have stayed. If anything had happened Thursday night and I wasn't able to get there I would have felt terrible.
My mom spent Friday speaking with the Funereal Director in Jersey, who had handled the arrangements when my other brother and a brother in law had died. He informed her the hospital was right with their information. From what I understand, my cousin, who lives where the hospital is helped my mom make the necessary arrangements with someone in NY, when she got up there Friday (yesterday) so we don't have to worry about it when the time comes.
I think my family is driving the hospital staff nuts. But to tell the truth we think most of the ICU staff is clueless anyway. His nurse today really ticked off my sister and brother. When my mom sister and I got there we found the sister who was there cleaning my dad because the nurse taking care of him really couldn't. She (the nurse) was rude to my sister, rude to my dad, then make the mistake of being rude to my mom with the three of us there. Big mistake!
We couldn't believe we had to ask for ointment to put on him because skin was breaking down and the nurse didn't bother to put anything on him. We had to asked for clean sheets. We had to ask for ice. The ICU wasn't even that busy!
We were really glad when she left at 7pm. The nurse who came on next luckily was a man who was better able to position my dad when he needed to be moved. My dad's still not out of the woods; but we are now pretty confident nothing's going to happen tonight or in the next few days. Enough so my youngest sister is going back to Florida tomorrow (Sunday morning).
I think she was starting to be concerned she left her three year old in the care of her 19 year old son and soon to be 17 year old girlfriend as well as their girlfriend and boyfriend. At least the 3 year old was in school all day Thursday and Friday.
This is the first time since Thursday morning none of us are up at the hospital. Something we noticed, none of the other patents in ICU had family in the tiny little waiting area. This hospital didn't have round the clock visiting hours like the other hospitals we were use to.
When a friend of mine was in and out of the hospital, one time 90 days in ICU, there were days I was in her room 24 hours straight. Her mom would be there 8 am -7pm every day, sitting by her bed.
They don't allow that at the hospital my dad's in. We think because this is a hospital pretty much in the middle of nowhere, the staff isn't use to dealing with family members who know how to advocate or speak up for the patents.
Since my mom felt very comfortable with the nurse who will be on until 7am Sunday morning, she felt it would be ok for nobody to stay. (I think the hospital is glad we aren't there either)
I've been calling up there every couple of hours or so since we've been home to get updates. Good or bad, there's been no real change. Good because he hasn't gotten any worse, but bad because he hasn't improved. The nurse has been great about my calling. Since my brother plans to be up there by 6:45am (he wants to personally talk to the over night nurse) I let the nurse know I won't be calling back to annoy him anymore tonight.
So that's how things stand for now. I'm really sorry for not being more clear the other night. |
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