| Author | Message | ||
     redY67 Citizen Username: Redy67 Post Number: 2880 Registered: 2-2003  |
Vinny congrats! You will love every minute of being a father! | ||
| SoOrLady Citizen Username: Soorlady Post Number: 2480 Registered: 9-2003 |
Vinny -  and  | ||
| finnegan Supporter Username: Finnegan Post Number: 221 Registered: 6-2001 |
Read Operating Instructions: A Journal of My Son's First Year by Ann Lamott. While she is obviously not a father, she is hilarious and captures well that special cluelessness all new parents feel. | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 116 Registered: 3-2002 |
OK, I know it has been awhile since I posted, but iwe were in a long waiting period. They said about six months, which would have been Dec. They told us not to get our hopes up because very few people match in Dec because people don't want to deal with this during the Holidays. We got an early Christmas present when we received a phone call on Friday saying that someone would like to carry our baby. She went for her last medical exam on Friday and if everything goes well we will be given her info and will need to fly out to LA as soon as possible. | ||
| redY67 Citizen Username: Redy67 Post Number: 4651 Registered: 2-2003 |
Vinny, that is wonderful! I am so happy for you. I hope everything goes smoothly! | ||
| Tom Reingold Supporter Username: Noglider Post Number: 11288 Registered: 1-2003  |
That's very exciting, Vinny. You're headed for a very sweet period of life. | ||
| Duncan Supporter Username: Duncanrogers Post Number: 5268 Registered: 12-2001  |
What a fantastic way to celebrate the holidays and ring in the new year. Hope it all goes swimmingly. | ||
| Scully Citizen Username: Scully Post Number: 85 Registered: 8-2005 |
Congratulations!!! And so it begins... | ||
| Amateur Night Citizen Username: Deborahg Post Number: 1704 Registered: 5-2001  |
Wow! Keep us posted! that is sooo exciting. | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 117 Registered: 3-2002 |
We went to the Growing Generations Holiday party last night. It was incredible being in a room filled with gay men and all their children. Who would have thought that this would be possible. It was a great experience meeting so many people in various stages of the process. I can't wait to be a Dad. | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 118 Registered: 3-2002 |
Good News! Our potential surrogate passed all her medicals and we will be flying to California to meet her on Jan 6th. We have our egg donor all lined up and ready to go. | ||
| greenetree Supporter Username: Greenetree Post Number: 6375 Registered: 5-2001  |
Cool! Do you know yet how you will work out the geography thing during her pregnancy? Does it matter? | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 119 Registered: 3-2002 |
We will be spending a lot of time flying back and forth to CA. The baby has to be born in CA., so that Rob and I will both be listed as parents. This way there is no need for second parent adoption. | ||
| Maplewoody Citizen Username: Maplewoody Post Number: 1109 Registered: 5-2001  |
Vinny, We're wishing you & Rob a great New Year! Congrats in advance on your growing family! You'll both make great parents! | ||
| Duncan Supporter Username: Duncanrogers Post Number: 5417 Registered: 12-2001 |
HAPPY NEW YEAR | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 120 Registered: 3-2002 |
OK, We hit the first snag in the process. Our egg donor has a DNA defect which makes her ineligible as a donor. This hit us hard because she was perfect. We saw a little of each of us in her personality. Besides our disappointment, we feel bad for her because the defect may affect her children. | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 121 Registered: 3-2002 |
OK ---we went to LA on Friday and met with our potential surrogate. SHe was amazing. We all hit it off instantly. Growing Generations matched us perfectly. The process is rolling along and will start to move pretty quickly now. | ||
| ess Citizen Username: Ess Post Number: 868 Registered: 11-2001 |
Congrats!! Very exciting news! Hope this process goes smoothly and that you will soon be on your way to fatherhood. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 1627 Registered: 8-2003  |
Vinny - have you found another egg donor? | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 122 Registered: 3-2002 |
Pippi---We are currently looking at a couple of young ladies and will hopefully make a decision by tomorrow | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 1633 Registered: 8-2003 |
good luck! I am glad the set back you had was minor | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 124 Registered: 3-2002 |
We finally found an egg donor---We are moving ahead with the process. | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 126 Registered: 3-2002 |
Okay---I know it has been awhile since I posted, but after we found the egg donor, everybody needed to go for bloodtests for a slew of infectious diseases. I never knew there were so many. Anyway, everybody is on their medication now. The egg donor and surrogates have both started giving themselves the Lupron shots. It looks like we may be flying out to CA at the end of March to do the embryo transfer if everyone responds well to their meds. | ||
| sac Supporter Username: Sac Post Number: 3180 Registered: 5-2001 |
It's amazing how much technology goes into this. Is it concerns about legal liability that add all of these tests and preventative medications, etc. to the process? (Obviously, people who conceive and bear children "the old fashioned way" don't go through them unless there are particular risk situations in their families' genetics or something.) I'm just curious ... it almost seems like overkill and quite an obstacle for people who want children and can't use the "old fashioned way" for whatever reason. At any rate, good luck and may all of the preliminaries be successful and completed quickly for you! | ||
| Tom Reingold Supporter Username: Noglider Post Number: 12680 Registered: 1-2003 |
I know! Adoption is also laborious and expensive, largely because of accountability, and parenthood by conception has none of that. And the scrutiny is aimed at those who want parenthood the most! | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 127 Registered: 3-2002 |
The tests and meds serve two different purposes---the tests are to make sure that everybody is healthy so that the surrogate will not catch anything during the process and also guarantee the best chances for the baby to be conceived---the meds are to make everybody extra fertile | ||
| AntoninaKC Citizen Username: Antoninakc Post Number: 186 Registered: 5-2005  |
Vinny, I just discovered your blog today. Congratulations! Hopefully everyone involved does well on the medications  | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 130 Registered: 3-2002 |
Found out last night that the egg donor has finals the week of the transfer and so now we have to push back two weeks. We are now looking at the first week of April to do the transfer. This process is pushing me to my limits. Must remember that all will be joyous when it is over | ||
| greenetree Supporter Username: Greenetree Post Number: 6873 Registered: 5-2001 |
Look at the bright side: your egg has studious, responsible genes! Also remember that every night of extra sleep you get now will be precious to you later. Hang in there. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 2026 Registered: 8-2003 |
Vinny It was really nice to meet you (again) last night Best of Luck - keep us all posted!! | ||
| BGS Citizen Username: Bgs Post Number: 839 Registered: 10-2003 |
Vinny M - great meeting you and Mr.M last night. Cannot wait to hear more about your impending fatherhood. Hope all goes as planned next week. Also hope that you both take care of business with certain dogs that like to do business within your wiff range. Please keep us informed of how things proceed...(or not if you two do not want to share details) ;-) BGS | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 145 Registered: 3-2002 |
I would just like to thank Las for introducing me to so many nice MOL'ers. It was a pleasure meeting you all. Here is the latest update---We retrieved a total of 32 eggs from the surrogate. Not sure yet how many are viable---we should know that today. I'll keep everybody posted. Can you believe this snow?!? | ||
| mem Citizen Username: Mem Post Number: 5946 Registered: 5-2001  |
Hey Vinny - Best of luck! | ||
| BGS Citizen Username: Bgs Post Number: 873 Registered: 10-2003 |
Good thoughts go out to you all- keep us posted!!!! | ||
| VinnyM Citizen Username: Frodo Post Number: 148 Registered: 3-2002 |
Just got off the phone with Rob. The embryologist called and said that out of the 32 eggs we have 27 mature eggs, which is an amazing number. He said it is the most he has ever seen. Yeah for us! Well actually Yeah! for our egg donor. Now out of the 27 eggs, we fertilized 14 with my sperm and 13 with Rob's sperm. Out of my 14, 11 became viable and out of Rob's 13, 12 became viable. Once again, incredibly good numbers. We took out 4 and 4 and froze the rest. Based on how the eggs divide by Friday, will depend on how many we implant. I will give you guys an update when we get back. | ||
| bets Supporter Username: Bets Post Number: 22909 Registered: 6-2001  |
Congratulations future Dads! Can't wait to hear the next installment of good news. | ||
| BGS Citizen Username: Bgs Post Number: 878 Registered: 10-2003 |
This is sounding awfully good!!!!!!! | ||
| SoOrLady Citizen Username: Soorlady Post Number: 3201 Registered: 9-2003 |
This is very exciting.. how cool would twins be... a little Vinnie and a little Rob!! (ok, maybe I'm asking too much... one healthy baby, please God) | ||
| BGS Citizen Username: Bgs Post Number: 880 Registered: 10-2003 |
SoORLady-you made me laugh out loud!!!! Or a Vincenza and and a Roberta.... or the aforementioned one healthy baby please God!!!!! | ||
| greenetree Supporter Username: Greenetree Post Number: 7147 Registered: 5-2001 |
Yikes! It didn't occur to me that you could end up with a litter.... Good luck. |
