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Scully
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Username: Scully
Post Number: 721
Registered: 8-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 8, 2006 - 11:45 pm: | 
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Me too! And guess what, that was my third trip to Whole Foods!
HAD to have local (NJ) organic blueberries, HAD to have their goat milk ice cream and then ,oh yeah, if the kids (newest grandchild's birthday party) were going to have any soda at all it was going to have to be the fruit spritzers.
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Scully
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Username: Scully
Post Number: 722
Registered: 8-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 8, 2006 - 11:49 pm: |
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And, sorry to have missed Maplewoodstock! After being up half the night and then half a day I lay down for a 'little' rest and just got up an hour ago. |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2123
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 2:07 am: |
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My Destiny
It ain't pretty
 
Great Aunt Ida and Great Aunt Elsie
One rounded hump and two pointy boobs.
Lord help me...
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bets
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Username: Bets
Post Number: 23713
Registered: 6-2001
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 2:59 am: |
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You're gorgeous.
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red
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Username: Redy67
Post Number: 6642
Registered: 2-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 3:13 am: |
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Okay, las remind me of your Great Aunt Elsie story. All I remember is we both have one,and they are both characters. |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2126
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 9:49 am: |
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Red, all I know is she had pointy boobs and could dice an onion in the palm of her hand while keeping up her end of the conversation. The impressive part naturally being the cigarrette remained in her mouth and the ash, as long as it got, never broke off.
I am doomed. |
red
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Username: Redy67
Post Number: 6651
Registered: 2-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 9:51 am: |
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Ah yes, pointy boobs..... |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2128
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 9:53 am: |
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It comes with the name...
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emmie
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Username: Emmie
Post Number: 802
Registered: 3-2002
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 11:12 am: |
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Las, I have followed your blog from day one. Everything you went through I was right there with you, although, of course didn't know.
Old age ain't for sissies. Your aunts look very elegant in spite of the points and humps. You also look beautiful. Looks like it was a fun day. |
SoOrLady
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Username: Soorlady
Post Number: 3463
Registered: 9-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 11:56 am: |
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What great photos! YOU look gorgeous!! The great-aunts are beautiful dahling.. and we know so much more about how to take care of ourselves to avoid the hump and Oprah taught us about bras.. so see... you CAN change your destiny.... and we know that you have taken many steps to do so already!
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Smoochie
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Username: Smoochie
Post Number: 116
Registered: 8-2005
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 12:23 pm: |
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Mazel Tov on your Bat Mitzvah!!! Sorry I'm so late  (I actually have some similar photos from mine)
Hope all is well with you...I was getting worried, you didn't post much this week. IMHO that just means you are doing great! |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2130
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, July 29, 2006 - 10:22 pm: |
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Hi Emmie! Hope you're doing okay. And thank you.
SOL, I'm always working on the bra thing. Always.
Thanks for the congrats, Smoochie - see you at your Sweet 16!
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BGS
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Username: Bgs
Post Number: 1195
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 6:54 am: |
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las- you were too cute as a young lady and now as an adult a really smashing soul!!!! am glad that i know you....
heart,
b |
Cynicalgirl
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Username: Cynicalgirl
Post Number: 3024
Registered: 9-2003
| | Posted on Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 7:14 am: |
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las, you look kinda like Ann Hathaway in the Devil Wears Prada! And given your career past....!!! I like the pictures! |
Soparents
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Username: Soparents
Post Number: 2511
Registered: 5-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 7:22 am: |
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las, don't think of them as a big hump and pointed boobies, think more J-Lo and Madonna..
You look beautiful. |
Calliope
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Username: Calliope
Post Number: 778
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 8:52 am: |
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Hello gahwgeous!(Barbra is not my best impression)
Look at you, Bat Mitzvah girl!
I think your great aunts are charming (although I can hear Aunt Elsie---did she sound like Selma Diamond?)
Yanno, Las, there is a big difference between your destiny and your future.
Look at it this way---at least they didn't have a rounded front and pointy back---that's just silly!
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Soparents
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Username: Soparents
Post Number: 2514
Registered: 5-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 8:59 am: |
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 Good one Calli, particulary for a Sunday Morning!!!!
Calli makes a good point las, destiny only happens if you let it, and future happens if you make it.
And you my luvvie will make it big time...
SOP x |
Calliope
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Username: Calliope
Post Number: 783
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, July 30, 2006 - 12:05 pm: |
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Las,
did you run those pictures through the face recognition site?
I think the results would be very interesting!
C
( I ran a couple of photos through just for a hoot! And I don't care what the silly software says---ess bears a startling resemblence to Anne Bancroft, Red to Audrey Hepburn, and me to a crazy little cat! But Bets is definitely Maura Tierny and SOP is Stevie Nicks) |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2157
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 8:30 am: |
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So I'm doing okay and I'm moving ahead and my days are just fine and the people I know are the best of friends and I think my life my just be okay. But then I sleep.
And the sleeping is better than it has been for months and I sleep full hours at a time most nights and sometimes sleep blocks of three or four and the only thing that seems to cause me insomnia is the a/c in my window.
But every night him intrudes my dreams and most every night him insists I told him to leave and that I said don't come back and then sometimes his friends or his family are there (those folks being people he brought to our marriage who naturally left with him, too) and they tell me each night they saw it for years we were doomed there was no way it could work and if only I'd seen the signs like they had because things were so obvious to them.
So Judy, my friend, said to put it out there and tell the universe I want him gone from my dreams. So herein I assert:
GET THE FCUK OUT! LEAVE ME ALONE AND INTRUDE SOMEWHERE ELSE! YOU ARE NOT WELCOME HERE YOU'RE NOT WANTED IN ME SO LEAVE GO HAUNT SOMEWHERE ELSE! I AM TELLING THE UNIVERSE TO TAKE HIM AWAY THERE'S ANOTHER I WANT IN MY DREAMS. I DON'T WANT HIM - HIM'S JUST A DEAD GAY MAN WHO RAN AN ENTIRE HALF MILE AWAY FROM HOME AND I DON'T WANT HIM INTRUDING ON MY PRECIOUS MOST COVETED SLEEP.
FIND YOUR OWN DREAMS YOU LEECH. |
Pippi
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Username: Pippi
Post Number: 2699
Registered: 8-2003
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 12:13 pm: |
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Amen, sister
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Calliope
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Username: Calliope
Post Number: 863
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 6:29 pm: |
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Ah, las! Excellent incantation.
I have some sage that you need to dry and burn to get all the creepies out of the corners.
Come and get it!
Calli |
Soparents
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Username: Soparents
Post Number: 2608
Registered: 5-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 6:45 pm: |
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...and if calli's sage doesn't get them creepies out of the corners, I have a flame-thrower that's guaranteed to do the trick....
Hope you had a good weekend las! |
Calliope
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Username: Calliope
Post Number: 865
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 7:31 pm: |
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Gee, SOP, should las waste a perfectly good flamethrower on this puny ghost?
Now, about that flamethrower,
.... I have a couple of targets in mind...
C |
Soparents
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Username: Soparents
Post Number: 2611
Registered: 5-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 7:56 pm: |
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Calli, they are already targeted!
xx
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Calliope
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Username: Calliope
Post Number: 870
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 8:37 pm: |
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Thanks, SOP! But, Hmmmm there may be more...
C
they are dropping like flies... |
Soparents
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Username: Soparents
Post Number: 2618
Registered: 5-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 8:57 pm: |
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Get our the swatter Calli, come on, swat swat swat....
and those you don't swat successfully, we will make nice and toastie....
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Bajou
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Username: Bajou
Post Number: 1493
Registered: 2-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 9:59 pm: |
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My dear Las,
from a woman who was left, namely me, can I just tell you what made it stop for me? You might not want to hear it and you might not want to try it. It took me awhile too...forgive him. It's the only way to make that final line under the summation. Trust me it took me a few years but I wished I would have figured it out earlier.
Mine left me for another woman. She was better than me, prettier than me, sexier than me. She must have been because why else would he leave. She was so much more than me that it was worth it even with kids in the picture. I had no self esteem for years. I didn't trust any man but eventually I realized that he was just not happy with me and that can happen. That makes me no less of a woman he just didn't love me and that is not my fault NOR his. You can't make somebody love you BUT you also can't make yourself love somebody. What should my ex have done? Continued to fake it and be content to be with a person that is not the one he wants to be with? I wasn't happy either but I would have never left. Was I right by not doing that? Would my children have grown up in a household where mom and dad fought day and night or where completely indifferent towards each other? So I thought and thougth about it and finally I realized I have a right to find the right person for me and so does he. Could he have gone about it in a different manner .... yes. I did forgive him after this soul searching and we are friends now. The moment I did that I did not miss him anymore, I didn't hate him anymore and I was ready to find the right person for me. Live is to short to hate and once you let go it all disappears by itself.
I do know that your situation was different but when you think about it, it still comes down to everybody wanting to spend the rest of their life with the right person, the right person for them.
So for now mentally cut his balls off on a daily basis but think about what I said without letting your hurt get in the way. It is the only way to be free again. Trust me on that! I wish it wouldn't have taken me four years to figure it out. Four years of my life. |
Soparents
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Username: Soparents
Post Number: 2619
Registered: 5-2005
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 10:08 pm: |
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Wise words...
I was ceremoniously dumped after 7 years of being with someone. It wasn't until I began to pick myself up that I realised he wasn't really what I wanted and I wasn't really happy, but had sort of just "settled" on things being the way they were and accepted that that was my fate.
Take it as being a second chance las.
And yes, a mental dose of daily ball kicking will work wonders too! |
Calliope
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Username: Calliope
Post Number: 871
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 10:10 pm: |
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She was better than me
Oh no,--Dear Bajou--you have that wrong---she may have been different than you are, and maybe she was better for him, than you were, but I can say with some confidence, she was NOT better than you!
Forgiveness is the answer, on that you are right, but forgiveness comes after the hurt heals a little--it will come for Las, in her own time.
Bajou and Las---never lose sight of what great women you are---and if not for your history,you would not be living your potential.You are both where you should be now, don't forget that.
I applaud you both.
Calli |
Bajou
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Username: Bajou
Post Number: 1494
Registered: 2-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, August 6, 2006 - 11:45 pm: |
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Dear Calli:
Thanks for the vote of confidence. I know she was not better than me but I did feel like that at the time. That was another step that came automatically by forgiving him. Funny thing is that I look at him now and even though he is a cute and a nice guy he is totally not my type in personality and looks and if I would meet him now we would be friends but I would never be interested in dating him. I know Las will know when the time is right for her to go down that road and you are darn tooten right...we all are a bunch of first rate women. We have personality, brains, humor, drive, a whole lot of soul and we all can look and be sexier than most pinup girls...In my case just not before noon when my wrinkels disappear because the rest of me is heading south LOL!!! Gravity a womans best friend!!! |
Calliope
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Username: Calliope
Post Number: 874
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Monday, August 7, 2006 - 9:18 am: |
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You know what, Bajou?
Gravity IS our best friend---it is what keeps us grounded!
C
so what if that which used to head northeast and north west just heads due south? It just points me in a new direction! |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2159
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Monday, August 7, 2006 - 9:18 am: |
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Thanks, Baj. Thanks for not only breaking up that volley between SOP and Calli (don't you two ever tire of one another?  ) but for knowing it has to happen in its own time.
My incantation didn't work. Tonight I might have to sacrifice a kitten. A gay kitten in goofy green car.
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Calliope
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Username: Calliope
Post Number: 876
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Monday, August 7, 2006 - 9:33 am: |
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Sage---I'm tellin' ya! Foolproof (and best effects when trying to guard against fools)
Come and get it!
There is also a store in Westfield called Success Express---they have bunches of dried sage-you can pay $$$ for it, mine is free--and I am sure someone there knows how to cast out nightmares.
C
sacrifice is a last resort,try mice first and work your way up the food chain to Miata |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2160
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Monday, August 7, 2006 - 12:29 pm: |
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It rains and it pours and it lands on my frizzy hair.
We'd been dating two years and sharing a flat no larger than the pantry in the house we'd someday own and him worked all the time and could never get off to spend some time with me.
Then one day him asked my thoughts on his taking a trip with some guys and I said I wouldn't be happy since I'd asked for two years and he hadn't a moment to spare for me thus how could he find one for them? I kind of booked it already he confessed. And that's when I told him we were through.
A few days later he tried to hand me his itinerary and I told him I don't care and he should be prepared for either me to be gone or the locks to be changed when he returned.
Then he came back and was miffed at me for not greeting him upon his arrival, but I'd been out and doing my thing and getting used to a life without him. And during our talks he confided in me this was his "last hurah" with the guys before marriage and I asked him aloud if he intended at all to let me in on his plans?
The talks and the fights they went on for days and at some point during that time we started to look for a larger apartment and then went to look at diamonds. And then last year when we met at the shrink and he told me I tricked him into marriage, I couldn't help but think of how backwards he was for he got what he wanted: he did his thing and he still had me.
I think of that now at this very moment because someone I know who has the smell I should smell said to me this very morning: this is my last hurah and I know what that means for I've been there before and can not go there again and part of me wishes I didn't know things so that I could wait to see what might happen, but I've got no choice but to break my own heart, or else have it done for me later. |
Calliope
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Username: Calliope
Post Number: 878
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Monday, August 7, 2006 - 5:16 pm: |
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Las,
You need Sage Advice, not sage advice.
I have none of the former, I am sorry.
Know that you have a lot of people who care about you, and I am one.
That is all I can offer right now.
C |
red
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Username: Redy67
Post Number: 6786
Registered: 2-2003
| | Posted on Monday, August 7, 2006 - 6:27 pm: |
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las--I am so sorry, the same situation twice in ones life.....be brave, go with your heart. |
Soparents
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Username: Soparents
Post Number: 2621
Registered: 5-2005
| | Posted on Monday, August 7, 2006 - 7:21 pm: |
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las, please do as red suggests, listen to your heart.
I wish someone here could tell you EXACTLY how things are going to turn out, but no-one can. I've "gone with my brain" so many times in my life, when my heart has been crying out to go another way, and even today I still wonder what if..
Our hearts will always get broken, and most times will mend, just sometimes they take longer, but please please don't judge your future or potential future by what happened in the past. Maybe this time is the time to take that leap of faith.
xx
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bets
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Username: Bets
Post Number: 23775
Registered: 6-2001
| | Posted on Monday, August 7, 2006 - 8:23 pm: |
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Oh las,
How unfortunately phrased.
Did this possible accountant know about your deceased's remarks? If not, you have to give him the benefit of the doubt, to be fair. Very scary stuff, but I think you're up to the challenge.
I will support you in whatever you decide since you, of anyone, knows what is best for las. |
red
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Username: Redy67
Post Number: 6792
Registered: 2-2003
| | Posted on Monday, August 7, 2006 - 9:08 pm: |
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las--I still have nightmares about my x from hell, they creep up, and I will wake up scared, and realize it was only a dream, I pray that one day they will stop; but it has been a very very long time. They don't happen often, but do happen. Then I think, "thank God I had the vision to move on with my life."
I have a wonderful husband and two beautiful children. I listned to my heart with him, and couldn't be happier. I don't know about you, but I knew with my x it was wrong, I could be happier. If my husband tried to pull anything on me, I know in my heart, he loves me completely, period.
That is why I say listen to your heart. How does it feel? Don't think about the past, don't think about the future, just your heart. |
ess
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Username: Ess
Post Number: 2970
Registered: 11-2001
| | Posted on Monday, August 7, 2006 - 11:23 pm: |
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Las, my dear beautiful friend, I feel your pain as though it's my own.
You've gotten some wonderful words of support and advice from these ladies. I can only reiterate the above, offer my support in what you decide to do and how you decide to do it, and be there for you.
The green-Miata-driving-twit is history. He can't hurt you anymore. You have no one to clip your wings. And you know that your heart is strong - stronger than you think. Please don't give up on yourself. |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2163
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Friday, August 11, 2006 - 3:41 am: |
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It's gone! It's gone! My four-day migraine is gone!!!!
It was still there a bit when I went to bed at 10, then I woke up at 3 and I'm fine! No headache, no pain, no hungoverness - just GONE! (My neurologist says I now have 'multi-day migraines' - that means multi-times the drugs, multi-times the fun!)
Sorry I couldn't get online sooner to thank you all for your support the other day, but that migraine was taking hold. As always, your kind words mean so much. I'm doing better. The Accountant situation managed to evaporate itself so my heart became unbroken and crisis averted for now. And I am migraine-free!!!
I'm going to throw myself a parade. Hope the fireworks don't wake you all.
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Soparents
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Username: Soparents
Post Number: 2639
Registered: 5-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 11, 2006 - 6:20 am: |
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So glad the migraine is history.
If your fireworks keeping lighting up the nightime sky las, it will always be fine with me as then i'll know you are happy.
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Pippi
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Username: Pippi
Post Number: 2730
Registered: 8-2003
| | Posted on Friday, August 11, 2006 - 9:32 am: |
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hi las
did you get the article I emailed you about migraines? Hope you find a more permanent solution. Going through this 2 or 3 times a years is a killer.
glad you're feeling better! |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2167
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Friday, August 11, 2006 - 11:27 am: |
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Pippi, that was you? Couldn't figure that out by the username. I'm sure I was in no more discomfort than you were in that 100+ degree heat last week. You and Mrbrtbr broke my heart. |
Pippi
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Username: Pippi
Post Number: 2734
Registered: 8-2003
| | Posted on Friday, August 11, 2006 - 12:13 pm: |
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that was me...wonder what the user name was?
me and mrbtabr broke my heart, too.
But the weather has turned it's lovely out!
they say in the 50's tonight. Perfect weather for sleeping! |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2203
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Thursday, August 24, 2006 - 8:46 pm: |
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I was checking out the MLS because you just never know when the perfect house will come on the market, and me, with that extra $800k I have lying around I might as well buy something, and there's my house. MY HOUSE. One year after I lost it, it's back on the market. Did they flip it since it's $100k more than we sold it? Did one spouse run away from home on the other's birthday?
There will never be another perfect, clunky old stucco house for $200k. And even if I could afford it I would never move back into my house. But jesusfcukingchrist - that house was my home. It was the place I would always have and the place him promised I'd never have to leave no matter what.
I'm fine, really. I'm actually quite a bit better than fine. I'm merely having a moment. And this very moment is all there is, until the next moment arrives. And having enough better than fine moments under my belt I know the pain of the memory of losing my home will pass. |
Calliope
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Username: Calliope
Post Number: 1020
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, August 24, 2006 - 9:04 pm: |
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Sort of like finding out an old lover is divorcing?
an interesting bit of information, but it has no relevance to you |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2204
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Thursday, August 24, 2006 - 9:10 pm: |
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I know, Calli. I really know. Thanks.
BTW - brutal candor suits you, girl! |
Calliope
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Username: Calliope
Post Number: 1024
Registered: 3-2006
| | Posted on Friday, August 25, 2006 - 12:07 am: |
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sorry las---you know I luv ya!
that's the Scorpio in me coming out---gotta watch that stinger |
sportsnut
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Username: Sportsnut
Post Number: 2560
Registered: 10-2001
| | Posted on Friday, August 25, 2006 - 9:29 am: |
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I was going to post that "your" house was for sale but I didn't want to be the one to break the news to you. I belive the sign went up on Tuesday and I was very surprised. I rarely saw the owners so I don't know much about them.
Maybe they couldn't take the neighbor? |
Pippi
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Username: Pippi
Post Number: 2810
Registered: 8-2003
| | Posted on Friday, August 25, 2006 - 9:46 am: |
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WOW, that's is a very interesting turn of events....
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las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2205
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Friday, August 25, 2006 - 10:31 am: |
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Calli, I was being sincere - you do say candid things well.
Pippi also has that ability.
Sportnut, today I realize it's not that important to me. It could be the neighbor, it could be the taxes, it could be a flip or a myriad other reasons.
Today I see it's just a house. It's what I needed then and the old instint to crave it surfaced when I saw the listing. It is transient and temporary and momentary, just like everything else. |
Scully
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Username: Scully
Post Number: 979
Registered: 8-2005
| | Posted on Friday, August 25, 2006 - 1:27 pm: |
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That's very zen. I'm impressed with how smoothly you've processed all that happened to you barely a year ago.
Took me two thirds of my life to even approach what you've seemed to have learned from all this. |
las
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Username: Las
Post Number: 2209
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Friday, August 25, 2006 - 1:55 pm: |
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Thank you Scully, but it reads better than it feels. I know some really great people who seem to me to be in a place I crave. If I come across as zen or at peace it is simply my wishful thinking as opposed to true calm. Heck, if I can work myself up into a tizzy by obsessing over painful crap, why can't I calm my insides by doing the opposite?
See you tonight!
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