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not again...
Citizen
Username: Notagain
Post Number: 1
Registered: 4-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 1:02 pm: | 
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I went to see Sideways at 7:15 last night and this older gentleman kept talking throughout the movie - I mean stream-of-consciousness-about-every-scene talking. "Shhhing" this guy didn't work, and it was too crowded to move. Very frustrating, epecially because I really enjoyed the movie. |
Dego Diva
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Username: Fmingione
Post Number: 193
Registered: 12-2003
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 1:55 pm: |
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I would have either gotten up and asked the usher to speak to the guy, or gotten up and asked for a voucher to see the movie again some other time. |
Debby
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Username: Debby
Post Number: 1545
Registered: 5-2001
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 2:55 pm: |
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I find if you look straight at them and say , "I'm sorry but I really can't hear the film", it usually works. Eye contact makes it hard for them to ignore/pretend deafness. |
lamojo
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Username: Lamojo
Post Number: 131
Registered: 7-2002
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 3:28 pm: |
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We saw the same movie but at the 1:45 showing yesterday...there was an annoying gum chewer who would crack gum pretty frequently. I was pretty close to saying something but didn't want to stress out my husband who is less confrontational than I am. |
Lydia
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Username: Lydial
Post Number: 871
Registered: 5-2001
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 3:40 pm: |
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I leave movies when there's too much talking. Management always gives a refund or a pass for another time.
If I sit and simmer and get into a "shushing" match it just works me into a state of complete crabbiness where every sound in the theater is amplified and the movie is no fun anymore. I figure if you ask someone to pipe down more than once and they keep chattering away, you can bet they don't get it and they won't stop for the whole time.
I've found when a movie is really good, I think about it for days sometimes it's even better the second time to see nuances and build up to the place where you left off.
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Taylor M
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Username: Anotherusername
Post Number: 273
Registered: 8-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 3:58 pm: |
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You have to be careful when you get into a 'Please be quiet' debate with someone in a theater. One of my friend's had a problem when they went to a movie about a year ago. they asked the people behind them to please be quiet and for the child they had in a R rated movie to please stop kicking their seat.
In response the ADULTS started to kick the seat. Then then dumped a soda on my friend's head. Accident? I don't think so...
I'd rather move my seat or ask the manager for a refund AND a second pass for the inconveince. The couple of times I had to do this I was given 2 passes AND snackbar money. |
mickey
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Username: Mickey
Post Number: 199
Registered: 10-2001
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 4:25 pm: |
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Once we had a non-stop talker behind us. We asked her a numer of times to stop, to no avail. Then my husband stood up. When the talker and her husband complained about not being able to see the screen, my husband said, "I'll sit down if you'll shut up." It worked. |
mtierney
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Username: Mtierney
Post Number: 734
Registered: 3-2001
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 4:59 pm: |
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Speaking of movie pests, a couple of weeks ago we went to see The Aviator at the Maplewood theatre. The 7:45 show was packed. People were meandering down the aisle, trying to find seats. There were two seats empty in the row in front of us. I watched as the lady sitting adjacent to these seats, told each person looking that the seats were taken. Just before the movie was to start another man asked about the seats, he was looking for a single. This woman said one was available and the guy sat down.
She was holding the seats for her and her companion's coats! She then piled their coats on the empty seat!
I thought it was unconscionable, but held my tongue as I feared I would lose out in a confrontation with this woman!
Incidentally, how the Maplewood theatre thinks anybody can enjoy a movie in those front rows which are usually the only seats available is beyond me. The screen is so far above your head!
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greenetree
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Username: Greenetree
Post Number: 3663
Registered: 5-2001
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 6:17 pm: |
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We went to see Ocean's 12 at the Maplewood a couple weeks ago. The theatre was pretty empty, about 10 adults. Just as the movie started, two groups of jr. highers came in, 5 girls & 6 boys. They spent the entire movie gathering around one's phone to text message, getting up & down, all of them at once, running back and forth to the concession, bathroom, other movies. It annoyed the hell out of me. Whenever they were shushed, they would say something smartass, but then settle down. Ten minutes later it would start again.
I did say something to the manager, but frankly, I don't expect things to change. After all, he made more money on those kids making multiple trips to the concession stand than he did on us buying two bottles of water and a small popcorn.
We have decided that we will avoid that theater during school breaks. |
not again...
Citizen
Username: Notagain
Post Number: 2
Registered: 4-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 6:38 pm: |
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I never thought management would give a pass to come back because of other patrons talking. I'm glad I asked about this! |
Meandtheboys
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Username: Meandtheboys
Post Number: 19
Registered: 12-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 7:15 pm: |
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Mickey: LOL. Love your husband. What a great idea.  I'll have to remember that one! |
Mr. Big Poppa
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Username: Big_poppa
Post Number: 35
Registered: 7-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 7:41 pm: |
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The first time I went to a movie theatre in Manhattan (eight years ago),two people got in a "shushing" match. They stood up and started yelling at each other. Then, one of them yelled out "he's got a gun!" and the whole place either ducked under their seats or ran for the exit. No gun was pulled luckily. I received a refund for that one and also learned to be careful not to escalate a tense situation. |
anon
Citizen
Username: Anon
Post Number: 1599
Registered: 6-2002
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 7:56 pm: |
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We were the first or second people to enter the theater and were sitting in a large almost empty theater when two woman walked in and sat down right in front of us. We asked them if they would please move rather than sit right in front of us and they said NO, they were going to stay right there. One then made a remark to the other about "people who always complain".
What's wrong with people? How can they be so inconsiderate? |
Lydia
Citizen
Username: Lydial
Post Number: 873
Registered: 5-2001
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 9:34 pm: |
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Mr. Big -
When I watched "Rambo" - I think it was the sequel actually, There was a knifing during the film - people were screaming and running out the exit-emergency doors, the house lights went on the knifer was tackled - this was in Nantucket of all places. |
doulamomma
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Username: Doulamomma
Post Number: 258
Registered: 3-2002
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 9:44 pm: |
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We went to the movies last weekend...it's bad enough when someone forgets to turn off their cell phone & it rings, worse yet when they answer it and talk...but a woman in our row was actulally making calls! Amazing...
Lamojo, we should get our husbands together for a movie date, as mine also prefers that I not "shhh" people |
Innisowen
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Username: Innisowen
Post Number: 339
Registered: 3-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, January 16, 2005 - 9:52 pm: |
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What's the big deal? It's foolish to answer rudeness with rudeness, in my opinion. Why not just tap the person on the shoulder and ask the person to be quiet. If that doesn't work, tell the manager of the theatre and have that person deal with the situation. No one should have to put up with annoying behavior in a theatre or a movie, but why respond to rudeness with rudeness? |
johnny
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Username: Johnny
Post Number: 1171
Registered: 5-2001
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 12:25 am: |
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Watched a movie a few years back somewhere in Jersey.
Guy is sitting behind us, his cell phone rings. He tries to answer but I guess his friend hung up. He then proceeds to call his friend BACK and when his friend answers he asks, "Why did you call me?"
Thought twice about saying something but my location led me to believe his reaction could be unpredictable. |
thegoodsgt
Citizen
Username: Thegoodsgt
Post Number: 728
Registered: 2-2002
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 8:55 am: |
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What is this world coming to?
I think Howard Hughes was onto something when he became a recluse and a hermit.... |
Soda
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Username: Soda
Post Number: 2356
Registered: 5-2001
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 9:01 am: |
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Sgt. Pepper
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Username: Jjkatz
Post Number: 555
Registered: 12-2003
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 9:37 am: |
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If I ever get rich, the first thing I'm going to do is buy a TV with a screen big enough that I don't ever have to go to a movie theater again. |
Strawberry
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Username: Strawberry
Post Number: 4287
Registered: 10-2001
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 9:51 am: |
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agreed. Once I became rich the first thing I did was buy a complete home theater system. I haven't been to a theater in 15 years as a result. (Except when I get some private screening passes from my Hollywood connections.) |
Meandtheboys
Citizen
Username: Meandtheboys
Post Number: 21
Registered: 12-2004
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 10:35 am: |
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anon: nothing for anything, but seems to me I would have moved my seat after someone sat in from of me. I agree it was ignorant of them to sit right in front of you in an empty theater. However, they do have a right to sit anywhere they want. Don't think you have a right to tell them where to sit.
As for all the other nonsense: talking during a movie, making cell phone calls, etc., just too many ignorant people out there. I'd let it be the manager's problem. |
Derek
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Username: Derek
Post Number: 123
Registered: 5-2003
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 12:30 pm: |
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Usually the ones who are compulsive talkers during a movie know this and don't go unless it's a weekday like a Monday...Monday's safe. I found this out the hardway when the ones we shushed shushed us back. |
Bobkat
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Username: Bobk
Post Number: 7250
Registered: 5-2001
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 4:52 pm: |
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Flashing a weapon usually works. You rarely have to carry through with the threat.  |
anon
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Username: Anon
Post Number: 1601
Registered: 6-2002
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 5:18 pm: |
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Meand: Of course I dont have a right to tell anyone where to sit, but we asked them politely and their response was anything but polite.
When I go into a theater that isn't absolutely crowded I try to make it a point to not sit right in front of someone. |
anon
Citizen
Username: Anon
Post Number: 1602
Registered: 6-2002
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 5:25 pm: |
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If you are really rich, why not go to a movie theater? If someone pisses you off just have them "taken care of". What good is having lots of money if you can't use it that way? 
Of course if you were really, really rich, you could just pick the theater and performance you preferred and buy up all the seats and invite only your friends. Now that would be fun!!!! |
Chris Prenovost
Citizen
Username: Chris_prenovost
Post Number: 255
Registered: 7-2003
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 5:44 pm: |
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Does anyone else think we are witnessing a general decline in civility?
It just seems to me, purely anecdotally, that people appear more likely to be thoughtlessly rude, inconsiderate and ill-mannered than they used to be.
When I was a kid, people in movie theaters were generally very quiet. Not even a whisper. Now, yapping through the entire film seems de riguer.
And it's not just in movie theaters, NJ Transit seems to attract a lot of braying cell phone users. People who seem to link their sense of self-importance to the decibel level of their communications. I was on a train a while back while some guy was screaming obscenities into his cell phone. I turned around to him, and, in the quietest voice I could manage, said: 'you know, you're not that interesting'. It worked because he lowered the volume level, but I wonder if he will do it again. |
Spare_o
Citizen
Username: Spare_o
Post Number: 178
Registered: 9-2003
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 6:07 pm: |
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Chris--I tend to agree about people being less civil to each other. I generally chalk it up to moving to NJ / NY from elsewhere. I have tried to notice how people treat each other in public lately and noticed that during the holidays courtesy improves. Probably no great revelation but there is hope since some people still seem to have manners. I find it disappointing in a way that I am surprised when someone holds a door for me or allows me to get on the train ahead of them. It's more of an exception than the rule (not that I expect to be treated like royalty but it's nice not to get run over or have a door slam in my face!). It's the little things in life...
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Spare_o
Citizen
Username: Spare_o
Post Number: 179
Registered: 9-2003
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 6:10 pm: |
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One more thing. I remember years ago watching a movie in a theater in Laguna Beach and a family of 4 sat right in front of us. The woman had hair about as tall as Marge Simpson and she sat in front of me. If that wasn't bad enough, the family chose to debate whether the son should go to a certain college that would mean he would have to move away from home. The entire family got into the debate and they didn't speak in hushed tones. Fortunately after about 20 minutes they got up in left. In one fell swoop, I could both see and hear the movie!
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Chris Prenovost
Citizen
Username: Chris_prenovost
Post Number: 258
Registered: 7-2003
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 6:35 pm: |
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Love the happy ending! |
greenetree
Supporter
Username: Greenetree
Post Number: 3668
Registered: 5-2001
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 7:03 pm: |
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I dread the rocket-science decision to start allowing cell phone use on air flights in a couple years. The last bastion of quiet (except for crying babies) is an airplane. |
Meandtheboys
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Username: Meandtheboys
Post Number: 32
Registered: 12-2004
| | Posted on Monday, January 17, 2005 - 8:48 pm: |
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anon: "When I go into a theater that isn't absolutely crowded I try to make it a point to not sit right in front of someone."
That would be because you are a considerate and thoughtful human being. Not everyone is.
No offense intended. |
Bobkat
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Username: Bobk
Post Number: 7265
Registered: 5-2001
| | Posted on Tuesday, January 18, 2005 - 2:46 pm: |
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Greenie, I am with you. The thought of having to listen to someone next to you on the phone for a five hour flight will probably make me lose it, big time. |
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