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     las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1050 Registered: 10-2003 |
By the time I left work yesterday my sister prognosed herself with eight months, tops. By the time I got home she was moving in with me. By the time I left for yoga she was printing out the advanced directive I sent her to fill out at the hospital this morning. We might know some things today but probably not all things for a while. I'm quite worried about her because I can't ascertain if she sounds the way she does because of her mood or if it is physical. I've got my cell phone in my pocket, waiting to hear from her. I keep it on vibrate for a cheap thrill. Being a hypochondriac I can't imagine actually being sick by the time I seek medical help. It's hard to believe we're related. | ||
| doulamomma Citizen Username: Doulamomma Post Number: 1106 Registered: 3-2002 |
But she hasn't actually been told this by a doctor after having done tests, right? Hopefully she can get in to see someone really good & get tests done & learn that she's ok except something really minor & easy to treat...she's probably exhausted from worry & learning the truth (hopefully & if she's willing) will free up lots of energy - for BOTH of you. Sorry this is happening. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1053 Registered: 10-2003 |
Just called the hospital. Still in surgery. I should have flown down. | ||
| greenetree Supporter Username: Greenetree Post Number: 6784 Registered: 5-2001  |
Las - I'm so sorry that you are going thru this. From your posts, I didn't realize that she was seeing a doctor, much less having surgery. You'll go down when she comes home. Best of luck. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 1812 Registered: 8-2003  |
you just told me tests - you didn't say surgery! I am really sorry...hopefully it is easily treated. GT is right - be there when she goes home, nothing you can do while she's in surgery. She's getting care from professionals. Maybe you can go down tomorrow or sunday? | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1054 Registered: 10-2003 |
How self-absorbed of my sister to do this now, without the decency to allow me my full 12 months of mourning and self-pity. When it's not about me it is always about her. You're right, P, there's nothing I could do for her. She's got a girlfriend there. I can annoy her when her friend leaves. And in the interim I can annoy the charge nurse. | ||
| redY67 Citizen Username: Redy67 Post Number: 4954 Registered: 2-2003  |
las--I am so sorry....if you need anything just give me a ring! | ||
| Cynicalgirl Citizen Username: Cynicalgirl Post Number: 2381 Registered: 9-2003  |
Man, I hope things come out alright. Assume you can take some days at the drop of a hat and go visit? | ||
| BGS Citizen Username: Bgs Post Number: 635 Registered: 10-2003 |
Oh las...prayers are flowing....keep us posted... | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1055 Registered: 10-2003 |
Thank you ladies. I just called again, she's in recovery - on schedule!, which gives me tremendous amounts of relief. I could cry. Just awful of her to do this to me. I have the most horrible sister. | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4074 Registered: 5-2001 |
What happened??? Please fill us in, we're all concerned! | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1056 Registered: 10-2003 |
IT'S NOT!!! IT'S NOT! IT'S NOT!!! | ||
| mem Citizen Username: Mem Post Number: 5816 Registered: 5-2001  |
Las, I'm so sorry about your sis, can you fill us in - I'm confused! | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 1815 Registered: 8-2003 |
yay! It's not!!!  | ||
| mem Citizen Username: Mem Post Number: 5819 Registered: 5-2001 |
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| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1057 Registered: 10-2003 |
Let's just say we won't be invited to the Greentetree's Mom blog any time soon. Take that!! | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 1817 Registered: 8-2003 |
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| BGS Citizen Username: Bgs Post Number: 636 Registered: 10-2003 |
Hooray!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | ||
| greenetree Supporter Username: Greenetree Post Number: 6789 Registered: 5-2001 |
Great! We don't want you there.  | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1058 Registered: 10-2003 |
I am near hysterics. I could cry I could laugh I could kick my heels or stamp my feet! I have homework to do and work to do and I can't seem to do anything. I don't know all the details yet. She says it is bad, but it's not that thing (the name of which we can now say because it's not that), so it doesn't seem as hopeless as it did a while ago but I'm so much closer to melting down. It killed most of our paternal family, but it doesn't have my sister. I have my sister. Me. Oh! - what a horrible person she is for doing this! She sees the doctor in two weeks. We'll talk as she gets more lucid throughout the day and plan for our visit. | ||
| ess Citizen Username: Ess Post Number: 1183 Registered: 11-2001 |
YAY! I am glad it wasn't the bad thing it could have been. | ||
| LilLB Citizen Username: Lillb Post Number: 1325 Registered: 10-2002  |
That's great news Las - glad it wasn't 'that'... | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1065 Registered: 10-2003 |
I am so drained and so wiped and am so chlorinated yet there are butterflies in my stomach which leave me unsettled and there's nothing worse than being out of sorts so I took a pill that I keep in reserve and since it's now Friday night and I want to sleep deep I took it and hope to relax for a month. If there's one thing I know it's all about anxiety and I know to treat it as soon as possible or it snowballs away and rolls out of control and then you can't calm yourself down it's too late. So to ward off the danger that's pending ahead I've taken the pill of my own volition rather than suffering for days. My sister is drugged and can't hold a talk so I really don't know the whole scoop but I do believe we're facing some change and the one thing I hate is change. But a week ago I was faced with decisions and now it would seem some are out of my hands and sometimes it's best when things just happen and you don't have to make the choice. Yet of the events of the last couple of days the one that will likely haunt me the longest is the call I never made to my other sister's kid to wish him a happy birthday. And since my two sisters don't talk I don't want to be faced with crossing a line, so I'm putting off the birthday wish for yet another day. Or two. I am going to open the window to make my room cold so my three loving fluffs sleep and purr and share their warmth with me for the night. I am very, very tired. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1067 Registered: 10-2003 |
I slept so well and for so many hours that I woke up with a headache when my Ernie began his morning routine of head-butting my butt. My sister won't talk, she's so out of sorts. She said she wishes she had the thing she doesn't have because that would kill her and be easier than what she does have. I'm still not clear on what she does have. I do know it is her intestines or colon (but not the colon thing that killed half our family), and she's had surgeries in the past and of all the yards you start with there's not much left in her and of those few feet parts are eroding and I don't know if it will be degenerative or cured. I'm going to give her a day to mourn and sleep and indulge in self-pity. I'll check on her throughout the day but I won't press her. Tomorrow we can talk. And not to make what's all about her all about me, but last night I took that pill and it worked. I am a bit unsettled but I don't have anxiety. I am up to the task of being a nurturing sister and in a better place to maybe not hate her so much for getting sick on me. No homework today. Only knitting. | ||
| BGS Citizen Username: Bgs Post Number: 638 Registered: 10-2003 |
las- hang in there- B | ||
| doctoralissa Citizen Username: Doctoralissa Post Number: 165 Registered: 1-2004 |
glad to hear about your sister. i'm sure you'll feel better when you have an idea of exactly what it is. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1080 Registered: 10-2003 |
A few days later and I now know my sister might get well on medication alone but her mood is horrendous and she's feeling dire and believes there is no way out of the pain. And when someone is where she is they don't want to hear what you have to say. But I know she is healing because there are things I just know. She breaks my heart. Tonight before class I submitted my application for student teaching, something I wasn't going to do and hadn't thought much about since I realized I can't afford to quit my job, but people keep saying to register to keep my options open. I registered to keep them open. Hopefully by registering someone will find my future husband so that I can continue with school. I do believe you get one true love, so a divorced man or a widower would be suitable since we both will have had our loves. Everybody knows someone. You all are just not looking hard enough. | ||
| mem Citizen Username: Mem Post Number: 5834 Registered: 5-2001 |
Las, I don't know any single guys that are good enough for you. I am serious. But if I come across one I will grab him for you. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1089 Registered: 10-2003 |
"The Year My Husband Left Me On My 37th Birthday" is drawing to a close. At the end of the month I will turn 38. I just received the lease renewal effective May 1, the receipt of which reminds me of that morning I left my home. The morning I left for good I had rehearsed for days. Once the movers got me settled I went back to the house to meet dear, sweet Maida (of Purr-fect Pet Cat Sitting) who usually watched our cats while we'd gone on vacations (including the one we took weeks before him left), but on this day she helped me pack up my cats and move them out. No charge. She wouldnt take pay for this most important task. Maida was the last person with me in my home, and the first person with me in the flat. I didn't realize until later what a tremendous burden I had placed on her. She pretended I was calling the shots that morning, but she was the one advising me which shots to call. I was fogged. I will renew my lease because not doing so would mean I have a plan, which I don't. The rent is going up, my pay is going down (my accountant informed me without a home and taxes I need to have more withheld). But the cats are doing well in the flat, I'm doing okay in general and I've got some really nice neighbors. So, as "The Year My Husband Left Me On My 37th Birthday" winds down (T minus 29 days) I must plan my birthday party because in my new life I have a lot of birthday parties. Should I have a do-over 37th since it was so horrific last year? Do I have a 38th? A combination? Or should I have a first anniversary party (anniversary of what?)? A year ago today (I keep checking those emails for good mental health) we corresponded about socks. That I was knitting. For him.: Me: How high do your socks usually come? mid calf? below knee? S: Mid calf. Me: Thanks. Would you wear a subtle argyle? (say, black sock with subtle gray diamond?) S: Have to get back to you on that one. Me: That's okay - I'm not up to argyle yet anyway. Do tell your prospects I can knit socks. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 1857 Registered: 8-2003 |
I guess he was trying to decide if argyle would go with his Miata  have a party just to have a party and celebrate everything and anything worth celebrating. Let's burn him in effigy! Ohhhh that'll be FUN! can I come? | ||
| ess Citizen Username: Ess Post Number: 1243 Registered: 11-2001 |
Count me in. You have a lot going on worth celebrating. | ||
| BGS Citizen Username: Bgs Post Number: 661 Registered: 10-2003 |
please include me... | ||
| Lizziecat Citizen Username: Lizziecat Post Number: 1082 Registered: 5-2003 |
Las; Look forward. Don't look back. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1090 Registered: 10-2003 |
You're right, Lizzie. 38th birthday party. | ||
| SoOrLady Citizen Username: Soorlady Post Number: 3045 Registered: 9-2003 |
Definately... a party to celebrate the year you became aware of all things you can do - a year you discovered that women make the best friends - a year you found yourself in the mirror and liked the person who looked back. Love to you Las.... celebrate HUGE!! | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1091 Registered: 10-2003 |
SOL, I'm all choked up. That was beautiful. Thank you. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1137 Registered: 10-2003 |
From South Orange Lady's beautiful prose to my pathetic dilemma (which I think is more appropriate for my blog than Please Help): I usually schedule appointments with my decorator in the evenings, generally after I come back from a run or yoga. On a typical (alone) night I would shower and put on my flannel pjs (the navy ones with blue and white stars) (I'm talking about the sexy flannel pjs here). However, since my decorator has started coming over I don't know what to put on after I bathe (unless he arrives before I return, then we just start decorating when I get home). I've tried wearing day clothes, but it's not condusive to making me feel like decorating, mainly because having seven hundred cats I've learned to not make contact with the furniture or floors in my house once I get dressed or risk getting covered in fur. I've put my sweats/yoga clothes back on, but I'm sure it makes my decorator not feel like decorating (anything with spandex makes me look almost as desirable as my flannel jammies...grrrr). I've also put on my short blue cotton robe with the kimono sleeves, but (a) it's winter and (b) it doesn't close well on top which I find akin to screaming, 'come decorate me.' Having spent most of the last year decorating myself, and the fourteen years before that being decorated by a man who was happy I just showed up, I'm really at a loss for this one. Do tell: What is appropriate attire? | ||
| SoOrLady Citizen Username: Soorlady Post Number: 3055 Registered: 9-2003 |
me? blue jeans & sweats.. but you? Silk... like lounging clothes... or a caftan. | ||
| Meandtheboys Citizen Username: Meandtheboys Post Number: 3149 Registered: 12-2004  |
A comfortable and attracitive "shift" thrown over your freshly showered self (and nothing else)? (Seems like you might have to go shopping for the appropriate attire for these appointments with the decorator.) | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1138 Registered: 10-2003 |
That's where I'm stuck. Define lounging clothes. And with regard to a caftan, is that like a moomoo? Didn't Homer Simpson wear one? A shift. With sleeves? It wouldn't have to be a nighty, right? |
