| Author | Message | ||
     red Citizen Username: Redy67 Post Number: 5047 Registered: 2-2003  |
Yes las, a nighty, with lace, definitely lounging...okay NOT! Sweats, old PJs, whatever is comfy for you....even a moomoo if you are up for it! | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1139 Registered: 10-2003 |
Red, you know me - I'm not even comfortable in my own skin! And I have tried the most comfy outfit: the navy flannel pjs with the blue and white stars (with a light coating of stray cat furs for added allure), but the decorator inquired as to the whereabouts of my fuzzy slippers and rollers. That's when I realized almost comfy would suffice. I need the name of a store. | ||
| SoOrLady Citizen Username: Soorlady Post Number: 3056 Registered: 9-2003 |
http://search.bloomingdales.com/exec/?PseudoCat=b.comSearch&q=silk+loungewear&Pa rtnerID=SEO&cm_mmc=PMD_SEO-_-Google-_-Loungewear-_-silk_loungewear or http://www1.bloomingdales.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?b=0&ID=45392&CategoryID =1693&t1=Fashion+For+Her&t2=Loungewear&cm_mmc=Froogle-_-SHP-_-Loungewear-_-Silk/ Cotton%20Loungewear | ||
| Meandtheboys Citizen Username: Meandtheboys Post Number: 3150 Registered: 12-2004  |
This is kind of cute and "subtle" http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=prod uctDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=UK-193109&page=2& cgname=OSCLODRSDAY&rfnbr=2665 Or maybe a nice satin p.j.? A bit more luxurious and sexy than the flannel, and I'm pretty sure cat hair won't stick to satin: http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=prod uctDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=UK-192189&page=2& cgname=OSSLPPYJZZZ&rfnbr=1720 | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1141 Registered: 10-2003 |
Thanks, SOL, but I'm not feeling it yet...sorry. | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4115 Registered: 5-2001 |
I am so confused. Let me get this straight. You hired a decorator and when he comes over you don't know what to wear if he comes over and your freshly showered after yoga, etc. Get a pair of velour or similar sweats, maybe charcoal gray, chocolate or midnight blue. Wear them with a slightly fitted t-shirt and ballerina flats. My mom and sister wear ones they got at New York & Company, but they're kind of microfiber. You can get them anywhere though, depending on the fit you like. Or, get some cool yoga/louge wear. Flowy, drapey leg pants with a tank and a light, open neck top over it. But maybe I'm missing something here. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1142 Registered: 10-2003 |
Yes, VIG, a decorator. Not the kind who works with colors and furniture. He sort of just decorates, well, me.  Me, we posted at the same time last night. That first outfit would look great on you. Aren't satin pjs so blatant? I don't want to come off like I'm playing dress-up. This is just a casual thing. I'm non-chalant. | ||
| eliz Supporter Username: Eliz Post Number: 1342 Registered: 5-2001 |
Ok I'm as confused a VIG - "decorator" is some sort of code for boyfriend, friend with privileges, gigolo????  | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1145 Registered: 10-2003 |
COMPLETELY DELETED AND EDITED TO READ: No, he doesn't really decorate. Indeed, the word is code for something else. | ||
| Meandtheboys Citizen Username: Meandtheboys Post Number: 3151 Registered: 12-2004 |
I think the first one might work nice for you too. And I don't know how much more blatent you can be, I mean he is, primarily, your decorator. It's not like he's coming over to tune the piano. The "intent" of the visit is clear, so why not be comfy and slightly alluring as well? Have fun with it. How does he know you don't always lounge around the house in your satin p.j.'s. Many, many moons ago when I had my own decorator, it was fun to play games I might not otherwise play. Seems to me satin p.j.'s are pretty tame, as far as dressing for that particular ocassion is concerned! Oh the stories I could tell of the things I used to do "back in the day!"  | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1146 Registered: 10-2003 |
I used to have a 'back in the day' too, Me. I still think fondly... This feels quite different, though, compared to way back when. Almost empowering. Calling the shots, deciding when, where, how long. It's neet. The one thing I'm stuck on is what to wear! I don't do satin. Silk yes, but not satin. | ||
| Meandtheboys Citizen Username: Meandtheboys Post Number: 3152 Registered: 12-2004 |
VS has some pretty silk ones too! | ||
| red Citizen Username: Redy67 Post Number: 5057 Registered: 2-2003 |
Okay, I am going to pull my head of my ••• now. I should have known las! Okay Silky with a little lace.... | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1147 Registered: 10-2003 |
Must have been all that "running" we did Saturday, Red. It's affecting the way you translate my super-top-secret language. Of course, by running, I mean drinking in our running clothes, in the middle of the day, not actually running. | ||
| SoOrLady Citizen Username: Soorlady Post Number: 3059 Registered: 9-2003 |
yes.. silk. Like I suggested. There is nothing like the feel of silk on bare skin. ok.. there are some things better, but this is pretty damn good too. Think 40's screen siren. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1149 Registered: 10-2003 |
I just went to Century and I looked at the silks, I looked at the moomoos and I looked at the pjs. Everything looks too contrived. I'm not into textures and ornaments. I just want to be casual, as in I just threw this on because my sweats were still damp - and it just happens to be by La Perla and cost a heck of a lot of money or No, I'm not wearing foundation, my complexion is really this smooth. Or the like. But having looked around I now know I need this to be more like an outfit than lingerie, for a few reason. Like I don't have curtains. Or I might want to take out the trash when we're done or scoop the cat boxes or something and I don't want to have to worry about covering up. Other than Victoria's Secret or cruisewear/lounging clothes, what else is there? | ||
| ess Citizen Username: Ess Post Number: 1302 Registered: 11-2001 |
How about something casual yet attractive? Something like a tank top and long flowy skirt? Still could be a "just got out of the shower, now let's talk 'decorating'" look. The point is, really, that your decorator will be more concerned with removing what is already there, and getting a sense for your taste, rather than focusing on the existing design. Incidentally, no decorator will ever take a client with a muu-muu seriously. | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4118 Registered: 5-2001 |
How about a hoodie, tank and LINEN lounge pants? | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1150 Registered: 10-2003 |
Muu-Muu. Not Moo moo. Got it. What about these yoga clothes from Title 9? I would get the long pants, and they'd both be in slate, because my favorite color to wear is gray, plus gray is a good camoflauge for cat fur. The garments are 90% cotton, and that 10% spandex in the top will mean I won't have to re-hitch after my shower.   Thoughts, comments, issues? | ||
| Meandtheboys Citizen Username: Meandtheboys Post Number: 3153 Registered: 12-2004 |
Those are very nice. You should get what you like and what you feel comfortable in. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1152 Registered: 10-2003 |
Me, I know that's mother code for 'do what you want, you're not going listen to me anyway.' | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4121 Registered: 5-2001 |
I'm not a "decorator" but I don't think that yoga gear looks too inviting for certain other physical activities. How about terry-cloth? That just looks too slippery to me. | ||
| Meandtheboys Citizen Username: Meandtheboys Post Number: 3154 Registered: 12-2004 |
Or wife code for "if you already knew what tie you wanted to wear, then why did you ask me?" | ||
| ess Citizen Username: Ess Post Number: 1305 Registered: 11-2001 |
I think the wrap top would catch the decorator's eye. | ||
| SoOrLady Citizen Username: Soorlady Post Number: 3060 Registered: 9-2003 |
I like the top too, ess.... and pale grey will look pretty on you las. If she can't see herself in silk... I guess they'll do. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1153 Registered: 10-2003 |
Me - I'm sorry. I didn't realize what I wanted until everyone showed me items I didn't want. Thank you for helping me see. Your bring me clarity. ;-) I'm sorry for letting you down, SOL. If it's any consolation, I wear silk twinsets all the time. The thing is, I trip over things and bump into doors - I'm not the silk satin type. Thanks to ess, my shopping mentor, I will now purchase a $110 yoga outfit that oddly I won't be wearing to yoga... | ||
| Meandtheboys Citizen Username: Meandtheboys Post Number: 3158 Registered: 12-2004 |
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| ess Citizen Username: Ess Post Number: 1313 Registered: 11-2001 |
That's the spirit!!! It's more of a pre-decorating outfit, anyway. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1174 Registered: 10-2003 |
I am up and I am up for a while for I went to bed an hour ago and I was so close to not thinking but I started to think. When I don't think I can sleep but when I think it is bad. For starters the outfit I wanted from Title9 Sports I practically had in the palm of my hand but they asked for a credit card and wouldn't you know: they take only M/C or Visa. I use Discover and AmEx. I used to use him's Visa in a situation like this - "him's" card not ours just his. Then one day last year six days after he left when we met with the counselor that night, he demanded his Visa card back. His card, not ours. Along with the spare key to his manual gay car, that he would never teach me how to drive but I should sign-up for lessons so I could learn how to pull it into the street. He had to have the key and he had to have the card because from the moment he left this was war. Correction: the moment he left he wanted me to stay in the house and he'd support me and pay for the house so that I could finish my education and follow my dream. Two days after he left it was war. I wasn't so dumb that I didn't know the import of having a M/C or Visa, so I got one under my name and my name alone. Can't recall which, but it's got a picture of a panda and a percentage of my spendings go to WWF. And I don't know which because I have never used it. I just can't for some lame reason bring myself to using this card. So this really great yoga outfit that I wasn't about to wear for yoga I'm not getting because for some exceptionally pathetic reason I will only use my Discover or AmEx.99999999999999999997 - my cat Al typed that. Being shaken by this irrational stubbornness brought me to my daily dose of Last Year's Emails, because I don't think you can ever do enough to push yourself into a hole when you're down. One year ago today I wrote to him: "On second thought I'm not quite in the mood for eggs." How beautifully mundane! And although I can't remember my new password at work I do have recollection of him calling me a year ago today to ask if I wanted some processed meat King's had on sale with eggs for dinner. And I never understood how a guy so obsessed with calories and exercise could eat the chemicals and toxins he ate. On financial principle he wouldn't buy organic. I talked him out of the meat (too salty), then changed my mind about the eggs. We probably had sushi or veggie burgers that night. The other email exchange from that day was about some comments he received on some titles and taglines he turned in for a show he was creating (which got killed, thank heavens). I helped him brainstorm - it's just what I did, and I tightened his copy and looked things up and was a stickler for typos and grammar. My shrink says I should be a writer. I want to be a writer for no other reason than to be a successful writer while he is not. So I accidentally thought as I tried to fall asleep and my mind went so far so fast that sleep will not happen for me tonight. I'm fine however, not really a wreck, just having a moment - one of many I have throughout the day. And for this one month, at least for this one year, I am staying busier than hell. It's not enough that my mother's birthday was on the 8th, or that she died on the 19th, or that my birthday is on the 30th, or that my husband left me on my birthday. He had to leave me the one month of the year when dates are ingrained in my brain. I'm going to teach my cat to type now. | ||
| Wendyn Supporter Username: Wendyn Post Number: 2774 Registered: 9-2002  |
A percentage of your spendings go to the World Wrestling Federation? No wonder you don't use it.  | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1176 Registered: 10-2003 |
Wendy, I love your brain! Can't chat now - have to go look up last year's emails. I have found that the earlier in the day I dig up past pains the sooner I can sabbotage my healing. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 1869 Registered: 8-2003  |
After reading your post from the last night, I feel the need to apologize again. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1177 Registered: 10-2003 |
Knock it off, Pippi. | ||
| SoOrLady Citizen Username: Soorlady Post Number: 3065 Registered: 9-2003 |
HEY!! Snap out of it!! You found something we all agreed would look smashing on you. Dust off that card and use it!! You're only letting him take something else from you if you don't. sorry, but it had to be said. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1179 Registered: 10-2003 |
I guess the advantage of including a third card in my charge rotation would be that the per card balance would theoretically be lower each month. Considering there has been no contact between us for close to one year it might be safe to assume he's learned his lesson and I don't have to keep showing him a thing or two. I must finish wallowing then I will decide. | ||
| Meandtheboys Citizen Username: Meandtheboys Post Number: 3161 Registered: 12-2004 |
What SoOrLady said! And I've already warned you once about what might happen if you don't stop torturing las! Delete the damned e-mails. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 1870 Registered: 8-2003 |
I think that if you must read them, each time you read an old email, you should delete it. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1180 Registered: 10-2003 |
Well I am cleaning house, sort of. Last night in the wee hours I tackled the paper pile. Not the current one, but the one everything goes into when it's no longer current, then gets moved to another room, then a basket, then a box. I worked on the box. I'm almost finished filing 2005 away. One thing I found that had no place was a card from him's sister-in-law (his brother's wife). She was a close friend, she was my family. We would consult one another before family visits to ensure each other would be there. We emailed regularly and spoke on the phone. She was like a sister to me. I received this note from her four days after my husband left: Dear Lynn, No matter what has happened, no matter what happens now, I will always think of you as a beautiful, big-hearted person. Who deserves a beautiful, big-hearted life. Love and strength, Susan I asked if she knew why my husband left me. She told me she loved me, she loved Sam, she loved her husband and for that reason she could not get involved. I wasn't asking her to get involved, I just wanted to know if she knew why my husband ran away on my birthday. This card has haunted me for close to a year because the words seem true, but they are not. You can't just say things and not follow through. Friends are friends even if their husbands are brothers. So I mailed the card back this morning with this note: My husband ran away from home on my birthday without a word. Within weeks I lost my home, my garden, the remainder of my education. I also lost you, someone I considered a true friend, someone I thought of as family. You abandoned me. You may not have taken the name, but you are a true Simmons. Shame on you Susan. You can have this card back. Your words are useless. I've never done anything like this before. But I had to send this card back. | ||
| LilLB Citizen Username: Lillb Post Number: 1364 Registered: 10-2002  |
I haven't really been involved in the yoga outfit selection because I figured it took me long enough to figure out that you weren't really "decorating" that I didn't feel worthy of the discussion... But....you need to empower yourself and your MasterCard (OK - I really hate using the word "Empower", but it seems appropriate here, so I'll use it). How exciting and liberating it should be that you can use the Mastercard without asking "him" for it. It's all up to YOU! If that didn't do it -- on your card rotation theory -- By having 3 cards, you can call the CC companies and have them switch billing cycles to fit your needs -- so that you'll only have one due at a time. We have two credit cards and only use one from the 6th-20th of the month and the other from 21st-5th. That way, we never get slammed too hard with payments. Get the darned outfit already!!! | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 1182 Registered: 10-2003 |
Did it. Call the card company to have it activated, then placed my very first purchase for $108.90. Wasn't hard at all. The hard part was pulling it out of my purse the first time. Using it was a cynch. |
