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     Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 2663 Registered: 8-2003  |
VIG - try Alma for an eyebrow wax. I hear she's very good. Also, I agree it would be a baaaad idea to get them done the day of the wedding. In fact, I might even go tomorrow instead of friday. | ||
| BGS Supporter Username: Bgs Post Number: 1171 Registered: 10-2003 |
Vig-Ess-Pippi- I have to laugh at all this waxing concern...in "my" day when I had a lot of eyebrows (as you get older-they fall out) we plucked our eyebrows and kind of did it daily to catch strays so we were pretty much always "plucked". Good luck with however you decide to go... Can;t wait to hear about the big day!! Ciao Bella~ BGS | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4842 Registered: 5-2001 |
Pip, I'll call over there. I know her hours are limited and with my little one attached at the hip it's hard to deal with. Yay, today at 1:30! Maybe I can arrange a playdate. So, in other news I just had the pres. of a moving co. over here for an estimate. The guy, a gentleman in his 60s or so, apologized when he came in, said he stunk from moving furniture. I hate to say it, but I think he stunk from moving beers. Suffice it to say I don't think I'll be using his company. He also kept commenting on how my house was a mess, not in so many words, but it was more than implied. Uhm, nice guy otherwise I suppose. | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4843 Registered: 5-2001 |
BGS, I often do it myself but have let them grow in a little since it's easy to overdo it! I wanted them to be a little thicker, but now they're too far gone and I want it smooth, so waxing it is. I should probably go every month or so, but I can only manage to get my haircut every 2/3 months and it's hard to just make the appt. and go. | ||
| BGS Supporter Username: Bgs Post Number: 1172 Registered: 10-2003 |
VIG- I totally understand....I was just laughing to myself about all the choices out there now for hair removal!!!! If I were home I would take care of the wee one so that you could go out and get them done!! Best- B | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4844 Registered: 5-2001 |
Thanks BGS. She's literally attached at my hip and refusing to stay with anyone! (She's also quite manipulative these days.) | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4845 Registered: 5-2001 |
 As usual Alma did a stand up job. I really, really needed that! Luckily I did it today because I am very red. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 2666 Registered: 8-2003 |
I am so glad that was a spot on recommendation! She only did a bikini wax for me, not eyebrows. | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4847 Registered: 5-2001 |
She's actually done my brows before, but I didn't think she'd be around today. My skin is so sensitive though. Now I remember why I try to do it myself. | ||
| hch Citizen Username: Hch Post Number: 317 Registered: 8-2002 |
VIG- Strips clubs are standard operating procedure for bachelor parties. I'm surprised that SIL actually believes bro did not go. Have fun. | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4852 Registered: 5-2001 |
H, SIL is sweet, but very naive. I wish I could think of one of the jaw dropping questions she has asked. I have had to apologize to her on more than one occasion for not thinking she was serious. "You're kidding, right?" "Ooooh, sorry!" We will all be happy when this wedding is over! Mom went yesterday to get her hair colored. She goes to a place in Bklyn. She brought her next door neighbor of 37 years, who doesn't drive much, and certainly not on the bridge. In the past few months, this woman has changed. Her brother died several years ago from Picks disease, which is brain degeneration. Her dad definitely had either Alzheimers or dementia, but he was much older. It's scary. She is 66, but now more than ever looks much older. She repeats everything and seems to have trouble moving, like she's stiff. She's gone for testing but supposedly nothing has come up. (Or it's possible of course they're not telling her, or not sharing any info.) Now, this woman has never been subtle, or showed any tactfulness with anything...her favorite phrase when we were kids was Mother farker carksarker, and that was pretty tame for her. (The true curses, not the MOL versions). Anyway, twice she used the bathroom at the salon, and twice she left with a stream of toilet paper hanging out of her pants. My mom didn't know whether to laugh or cry. It's tough. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 2684 Registered: 8-2003 |
VIG - your adoring fans need an update: How was the wedding????? | ||
| LilLB Citizen Username: Lillb Post Number: 2180 Registered: 10-2002  |
Don't keep us waiting VIG..... Gotta have an update!!! | ||
| emmie Supporter Username: Emmie Post Number: 810 Registered: 3-2002  |
VIG, yes an update...I loved your shoes..the picture anyway. I have never been to or been in a wedding I didn't have fun at, even the worst. Hope you did have a good time. BTW, got the oil tank estimate from the Sunrise people. Thanks again for the info. Going with them. | ||
| BGS Supporter Username: Bgs Post Number: 1198 Registered: 10-2003 |
VIG!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The suspense is killing us!!! Give us the wedding scoop!!!! :-) BGS | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4879 Registered: 5-2001 |
Hi all! The wedding was fun, but the day was long. We left here around noon, went to my parents to dress and do the girls' hair and then I drove to my brother's house with the girls for (2!!!) pictures. She asked us to be there at 1:15, but luckily we got there 45 minutes late, it was tough to have their hair perfect and then we couldn't get my cousin's dress to zipper, so that delayed us a little. We arrived by my brother's house where the BMs and the bride and her parents were hanging out. My sister sent bagels over but her sister, who lives next door, stuck everything in her freezer so we were hungry waiting.  We arrived at the hall a few hours beforehand and took some pictures. It was nice, thought the bridal suite was small and the bridal party HUGE! The bride looked like a little princess. The ceremony was outdoors, but they have a nice garden with a pond, lots of trees, very serene for Coney Island! My SIL (other bro's wife) took her son, the 18 month old ring bearer down the aisle. My flower girl forgot to toss the flower petals, but she did a stand up job! The jr. bridesmaids looked gorgeous and they all made me very proud. The entire bridal party went into the suite for the cocktail hour but it was too clautrophobic in there so I mingled for a bit while I could. You never get to see or speak to enough people at these things! My youngest fell asleep in her dad's arms for awhile, the oldest went into the bridal suite and hung out with the babysitter my mom hired for my nephew, and eventually fell alseep too, but did dance and enjoy dinner. The middle kid, 8, danced the entire night! She was out there partying with my cousin, it was so great to watch! It was a fun, young wedding. There was a DJ/emcee and a bongo-ish drummer. Some songs the drumming enhanced, others not so much! Lots of light effects and techno, not my thing but we still managed to dance plenty. Their friends were going crazy! I do wish there was a little more variety with the music, (especially for the older guests, a few made comments to me) but there was TONS of food & liquor, and the service was great for so many guests. We are tired! The ceremony was 6'ish (probably started 6:30 though) and the reception (with full viennese hour) didn't end until 1am. We had to stay because we all took a giant limo back to my parents' house. I think all the BMs looked good in the dress, though it had boning we realized hurts, and it's hard to eat in such a fitted dress! Also, that light colored satin back taffeta shows every drop. I enjoyed a frozen kahlua and cream (before the ceremony!) and the condensation dripping off the glass left a few nice sized stains. Live and learn! My shoes weren't too bad, I kept them on until we left when I put on some gold ballerina flats. I will definitely get lower shoes for my sister's wedding if I'm going to be on my feet for 10 hours. All in all a nice, albeit expensive day! My girls were so amazing. The little one was a little clingy, but not too bad. She enjoyed dancing in her daddy's arms and looked like an angel. My brother, the best man, gave an incredible speech. (He's done stand up and he's a political writer, you can only imagine!) My brother picked a song Mama by BoysIIMen to dance with my mom and she loved it. He printed out the words for her and she cried to me. He really is a good guy, and I realize how lucky I am to have my family. The gift will be a lot, but I know he'd do anything for us, and let's hope this is it for him! | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4880 Registered: 5-2001 |
I AM SO HAPPY IT'S OVER! Now I can start preparing for my sister's wedding (and saving up for it too!). | ||
| LilLB Citizen Username: Lillb Post Number: 2181 Registered: 10-2002 |
Sounds like a wonderful time! It is amazing how events like that can make you appreciate your family even more. Thanks for the update. | ||
| BGS Supporter Username: Bgs Post Number: 1200 Registered: 10-2003 |
Oh VIG- Thanks for all the details...family is what counts and am glad that it all worked out so well for you! | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4906 Registered: 5-2001 |
I am working on packing up 10.5 years of stuff. I do a little, I procrastinate. It's tedious. Not to mention the fact that I must have ADD because I go from one room to the next, a little here, a little there. This has basically been my routine all summer, and I'm probably maybe almost close to halfway there. So, tonight I speak with my beloved mother. She has lived in the same house for 37 years. We are different. I move things around all the time. She likes things the same. Now, Saturday night we are getting together with friends, not far from my mom's. My mom is always willing to watch the kids, so we will bring them by for a few hours. "Are you SURE you should be going out Saturday night when you have so much packing to do? I mean, this was suck a quick decision to move, I have no problem babysitting but maybe you should be packing instead." I said what are we punished because we made a quick decision to move? We're not allowed to eat or socialize??? My brother's wedding only took up almost every weekend in July. Tomorrow we're looking for bridesmaids dresses for my sister's wedding. I'm so selfish...I want to see my friends and get away from boxes for a night! | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 2694 Registered: 8-2003 |
We want to see you, too!!  (I'll help you pack, I promise) | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 2150 Registered: 10-2003  |
You're not selfish, VIG. You've got ten thousand things going on; remind your mother you agreed she could babysit, not tell you how to live your life. | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4908 Registered: 5-2001 |
Thanks ladies. Pippi, there's no way you're helping me pack! You can help me by coming over for an iced tea or lemonade and some conversation after we move in... Las, I basically told her so, not in so many words, but direct enough thatwe ended the conversation. Here's a question for y'all. What would you do? We move in and 3 days later go on vacation. Should I leave the cat to explore the new digs and have friends check up on her every couple of days or bring her to my parents' house and keep her there? I don't want her to be too confused or stressed out. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 2696 Registered: 8-2003 |
Has she ever been to your parents' house? If yes, then bring her there. She might be stressed out in either case, but if you bring her to your parents, at least there are people there. | ||
| greenetree Supporter Username: Greenetree Post Number: 8824 Registered: 5-2001  |
I wouldn't move her out of the house, to your parents and then back to the new place with all the chaos and unpacking. Too stressful; cats don't like change. And you sure don't want her to start announcing her stress! She's probably having fun right now, with the boxes, etc. Ours always did. We've developed a formula over the years for moving and it works out pretty well. Cats go first, before the movers come and scare the *&%^ out of her. The day of the move, get up nice and early and take kitty to the new house with some toys, a litter box, food, water and a blankie or familiar bedding. Isolate her into one room. I think that you said the house is big enough to accomodate this. If it can be a big room so that she can jump around (see bottom of post) it would be best. Since you are going away, this should be especially important, since she can establish a "safe" place for herself. During the moving day, with all the noise and commotion, go into the room to visit on occassion. Sit with her & give pets, etc. If she's hiding under her blankie or something, don't drag her out; sit & reach under/into her place and give her pets. She'll come out when she's ready. Make sure that your girls don't let her out of the room! You can let her out at the end of the day. When you go on vacation, if the room is big ebough, put her back in there. Add a large box on its side or some other "cave" type place in the room and put a favorite chair (or whatever she likes to sleep on) in the room. I'd also get a covered litter box since she'll be confined to one room. I don't know how long you'll be gone, but you may want to have someone every day, or at least every other day. You'll want her litter box to be very clean since it will be in the same room as her food and she may (or may not) want some company. Put the litter box and food/water at opposite ends of the room. You should also get a vacation water bowl if you don't have one & make sure that the room won't get dangerously hot. If the new house doesn't have central air, make sure to leave a window open for her (it will make her very happy). What kind of personality does she have? | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4913 Registered: 5-2001 |
Re: the cat...She's fairly independent. She comes over to one of us only when she wants. My parents have a gigantic, cool basement I could see her enjoying, and when she wants company they'd be right there. I am leaning towards that. We could bring her over a few days earlier so she doesn't even get into the new house. So todaY I took the little one into the city and met my mom and sister to look for BM dresses for her upcoming wedding. She (the 4 yo) was such a good traveling companion, and walked all around with barely a complaint. A goal for next summer...less structure so we could go in once a week to check out museums and stuff! We went to RK Bridal. I tried on dozens of dresses and we agreed on the one I liked before I put it on. Color will be a dark brown with a pale rose colored satin ribbon belt. Wanna see? I am mostly happy because it's NOT strapless! I loved the dupioni silk, but it costs $100 more or so and my sister doesn't want to ask her friends to spend that much. In the dark color, the satin is fine.  She will ask the other 10 girls their opinion. They may end up in a more simple strapless style (majority rules). My 3 girls will wear either ivory or dark brown with the rose colored ribbon. Dark brown might be too dark, but it is still winter...we'll see. We also got my mom's dress! This is quite an accomplishment. It's a dress she saw when she was looking for my brother's wedding but felt it was too expensive. It's beautiful, not too revealing and coincidentally it is also a dark brown, which is very flattering on her. I am so glad we accomplished what we needed. It was a nice day! | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4918 Registered: 5-2001 |
I think I've made the decision about the cat. Before we move we will bring her to my parents' house. I just feel more comfortable with that. I will also allow my mom to babysit my houseplants for a few weeks so they don't get destroyed in the move. (I expect everything will be flourishing when we pick it up!) | ||
| greenetree Supporter Username: Greenetree Post Number: 8867 Registered: 5-2001 |
You know your kitty best, so that's cool. And she won't have the trauma of all those big, loud, strange guys coming into her house and taking her things. Because everyone who is owned by a cat knows that it is all their's..... they let us share sometimes because we feed them. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 2701 Registered: 8-2003 |
"She will ask the other 10 girls their opinion. " ten girls???? WOW very pretty dress. it will look lovely on you | ||
| BGS Supporter Username: Bgs Post Number: 1218 Registered: 10-2003 |
VIG/Shh- Great dress! How wonderful that you were able to get yourself taken care of and your Mom in the same day...now that those two headaches are out of the way, you just have to concentrate on the wee ones. Thanks for sharing! B | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4919 Registered: 5-2001 |
Thanks B& Pip. Gtree, I can't begin to comprehend that I know her best! She is a good cat— she made the transition into our house (from the street or wherever she was) fairly easily. I figure my mom's house will be a new playground for a few weeks. Also, in our new house there are cats, so I'm afraid perhaps she might feel threatened by their scent? I dunno, but I don't want any spraying or anything like that while we're away. My mom's house has always been cat free, though she watches my bro's dog a lot. Making progress prepping for the move. I sold 2 big pieces of furniture, they store a lot but I will be happy not to move them knowing I don't love them. I will be searching out some new pieces for my girls. Looking for simple wooden pieces I can paint if necessary. Dressers and I want them each to have a desk in their rooms. We bought a used Imac, so now the older two will each have their own (though we have to fix one and add some memory). Mr Vig wants to try to set them up with internet access (remote...I am so stupid with this stuff I am clueless) though not sure I agree. We'll cross that bridge soon enough. | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4920 Registered: 5-2001 |
Pip, yes,she has a lot of girls, but 3 are cousins, 2 are sisters-in-law and her close friends (HS-college-Law school!). Plus me & my three! I don't care, that is my dress and they could all choose strapless if they prefer. Plus, I get to say the speech...can't wait! (Note to self: prepare speech before having a few glasses of champagne at the reception!) | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 2703 Registered: 8-2003 |
I'd like to see you get through the speech without cracking yourself up somehow, so that you are bent over at the waist and can't breath, slapping your legs...good luck. DON'T DRINK before the speech!  | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4922 Registered: 5-2001 |
Ohmigod...I can't tell a story without cracking myself up. IS my laughter contagious? Will they laugh WITH me or AT me? How can I tell 30 years worth of stories without putting the reception to sleep? Is it ok if I ask the Bride to join me in a rendition of Ms. Hanigan's "little girls"? We serenaded her fiance with that song at Mohonk and someone called security on us. We are probably the only people to almost get kicked out of Mohonk for a bad interpretation of Annie songs. I will definitely have to prepare. I hope you are available next MArch to sit through my speech. I will liquor you up beforehand (you'll have a newborn, you'll need it!) and we'll see how it flies. | ||
| greenetree Supporter Username: Greenetree Post Number: 8883 Registered: 5-2001 |
How can I tell 30 years worth of stories without putting the reception to sleep? That one's easy. Omit all the stories that you would feel comfortable telling her children when they are young. If she has kids, you'll get to tell those anyway. Then eliminate any stories that end with "... and she didn't find her bra for an entire week." It may be too much for old Aunty Ethel. Anything that starts with, "When she was 5, our Mom had just finished doing her hair for a party and...." or "Until today, Dad never knew about the time I had to pick you up from that party...." will entertain everyone very nicely. | ||
| BGS Supporter Username: Bgs Post Number: 1219 Registered: 10-2003 |
Greentree- I am always amazed at the thought that you put into your answers...AND how often they are right on target when someone is asking for information or suggestions. Very good advice above.... My own addition...recently attended a wedding where the Bridegirl speechgiver told a lot of inside stories that only she and the bride apparently knew about and they both laughed themselves silly but everyone else was bordering between boredom (after about the 3rd such story) or disbelief that someone would do that... B | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4924 Registered: 5-2001 |
My sister-in-law's sister kind of did that last weekend. Why talk about dancing on tables, sneaking out windows or farting at your sister's wedding. Not funny. My brother, OTOH gave an incredible Best Man speech. Of course, he's a political writer, so he has an edge. Then there was the wedding Pippi and I attended several years back, where an obviously drunk best man recalled the singles party the groom and (6 mos. pregnant) bride met. And he told about all the other names and numbers his brother got that night. And we all sat there mouths gaping. At our wedding my sister gave a beautiful speech. We started dating when she was only 10! Then the Best Man (runner up...our first best man moved to AZ and couldn't make it back) couldn't say anything, not even the speech the other Best Man sent him... he just said "may your first child be a masculine child." (IN some accent, must be a line from a movie?) Oh well, three daughters later here we are... I promise not to only tell inside jokes, not to laugh too hysterically, and not to talk about her impotent ex-boyfriend. Is that good? | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 2706 Registered: 8-2003 |
I can't remember who your best man was.... help me out here. I will gladly listen to your speech (with a few drinks in me) Anything to see you crack yourself up!  | ||
| Virtual It Girl Citizen Username: Shh Post Number: 4927 Registered: 5-2001 |
Initials are MC...you lived with him for a year (purely platonic...blech!) | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 2709 Registered: 8-2003 |
yeah, that's what I thought. And the other MC, he moved to NM, not AZ (first best man choice, right?) |
