| Author | Message | ||
     las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 511 Registered: 10-2003 |
Smoochie, Dieci has real spa-like facilities? Not just a dark room in a noisy salon? | ||
| greenetree Supporter Username: Greenetree Post Number: 5633 Registered: 5-2001  |
Las. Absolutely. And were it with confidence. Trust me on this one. | ||
| Smoochie Citizen Username: Smoochie Post Number: 40 Registered: 8-2005 |
Check out the site, It has photos. I wouldn't have the heart to steer you wrong on dier occasion such as tomorrow!  | ||
| SoOrLady Citizen Username: Soorlady Post Number: 2651 Registered: 9-2003 |
Las - Greenetree loves you and would never give bad advice. Red is PERFECT!! Srong, bold, confident.... drop dead shoes are good too.. and love the portfolio idea! Good luck tomorrow...sending good thoughts for peace of mind and heart. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 1339 Registered: 8-2003  |
what size shoe do you wear? I am sure any number of us would offer up a pair ... | ||
| greenetree Supporter Username: Greenetree Post Number: 5635 Registered: 5-2001 |
Yeah - instead of "Come F@ck Me" shoes, you'll be wearing "Go F@ck Yourself" shoes.  What size shoe do you wear? | ||
| ess Citizen Username: Ess Post Number: 254 Registered: 11-2001 |
I am a big fan of the killer black boots. But your feet are little and cute...mine are large!! | ||
| Meandtheboys Citizen Username: Meandtheboys Post Number: 1865 Registered: 12-2004  |
Oooh, oooh, I just had a great idea for another great accessory! Try this on for size...... A really hunky, stud-muffin of a guy! ! Rent one or borrow one and instruct him to look longingly at you every now and then, caress your shoulders and give you tender kisses. So the list thus far: * great black dress * red nails and lips * "F you" shoes * the little act with the shiny portfolio * boy toy I think that does it! | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 512 Registered: 10-2003 |
HE'S GAY!!! HE DOESN'T CARE!!! (But I'll do the portfolio snap 'cause that is classic!) | ||
| kmk Supporter Username: Kmk Post Number: 760 Registered: 5-2001 |
No - better thatn a real-life stud muffin....an imaginery lover. The other party's imagination will be much, much wilder than anything you could bring in person. How, you ask? ....Get your cell phone to ring (at some prearranged moment) and make all uncomfortable, embarrassed faces, whisper and make smoochie sounds back into it before apologizing to those around you for the interuption and hanging up! Even use the name of some guy he has heard before. "Jack? Which Jack? Not 'Jack Jones former electrician who visited our home while I was away at work' Jack?" Hee hee I love this! OK I am an Aries. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 513 Registered: 10-2003 |
Excuse me, Your Honor. I'll just be a moment. (He used to travel a lot, so maybe he'll fall for it...) I'm an Aries, too! | ||
| Smoochie Citizen Username: Smoochie Post Number: 41 Registered: 8-2005 |
Las Did you check out Dieci?? I hope you got an appointment. If you go for the imaginary boyfriend, please make KISSY sounds into the phone.  | ||
| kmk Supporter Username: Kmk Post Number: 762 Registered: 5-2001 |
Even a gay man would hate to think that he had been cuckolded!!! Also - cross your legs and smirk a "I've got a secret" smile while slamming shut the portfolio. I just practised the move here and it looked quite nice... (I should qualify all of this venom with the fact that even though I have been married 11 years to prince charming, BEFORE him was a 8 year relationship with a free-loading, pygmalion type , 15 years my senior son-of-a-gun who I can visulaize all of this with!) | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 514 Registered: 10-2003 |
Smoochie, I wasn't loving Dieci...sorry! I'll call Hilton in the am - I'm sure someone will have cancelled their massage or facial. And I will certainly make kissy sounds just for you, Smoochie! (then I will SNAP SHUT my portfolio) | ||
| Smoochie Citizen Username: Smoochie Post Number: 42 Registered: 8-2005 |
That's Perfect! Hold your head high, and remember you have the force of MOLers right there with you in spirit. Then go have that massage & facial,and ENJOY THEM. | ||
| ess Citizen Username: Ess Post Number: 255 Registered: 11-2001 |
By the way, even if he IS gay, the hot guy will just make him jealous. YOU can land a better man than he can. Hee hee. | ||
| Meandtheboys Citizen Username: Meandtheboys Post Number: 1871 Registered: 12-2004 |
And, just the idea that you've quickly moved on to bigger and better things would drive him crazy. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 516 Registered: 10-2003 |
ess, | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 517 Registered: 10-2003 |
Even a gay man would hate to think that he had been cuckolded!!! Also - cross your legs and smirk a "I've got a secret" smile while slamming shut the portfolio. I just practised the move here and it looked quite nice... KMK, idolize you... | ||
| redY67 Citizen Username: Redy67 Post Number: 3911 Registered: 2-2003  |
Las 15 more minutes, we are thinking of you and your "I've got a secret" move while wearing go f your self boots, black dress and red lipstick. | ||
| Lucy Supporter Username: Lucy Post Number: 1471 Registered: 5-2005  |
Las we are all cheering for you go get him tiger and wake up to a new begining in your precious life friend... | ||
| kmk Supporter Username: Kmk Post Number: 766 Registered: 5-2001 |
By the time you read this you can CELEBRATE that the dreaded day is done! Check it off of your list and move ahead. I raise my chardonnay to you girl. | ||
| redY67 Citizen Username: Redy67 Post Number: 3919 Registered: 2-2003 |
las, you need to have a huge party, or we'll all take you out. "D" parties are all the rage. You should celebrate the beginning of a new era. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 518 Registered: 10-2003 |
It's done. I wore gray. But the blotches on my skin were red. Bets came to my rescue. She always does. | ||
| Cynicalgirl Citizen Username: Cynicalgirl Post Number: 1900 Registered: 9-2003  |
Are you having a big drink at this very moment? Good for you that you lived through it. | ||
| greenetree Supporter Username: Greenetree Post Number: 5649 Registered: 5-2001 |
Breathe in. Hold it. Breathe out. Slowly, now. No hyperventilating.... | ||
| SoOrLady Citizen Username: Soorlady Post Number: 2654 Registered: 9-2003 |
Gotta love Bets.... I don't even know her... but ya gotta love her. Happy that she was there for you Las.. open a bottle of your favorite quaff and lift a glass to the unknown tomorrows... and all the possibilities. | ||
| bets Supporter Username: Bets Post Number: 22443 Registered: 6-2001  |
I wasn't letting you go through that alone, my dear. It was nothing - I was at my desk by 12:30. He's realy a swine: after one "death-look" from me he couldn't even meet my eyes. He deserved to be divorced on those grounds (don't know if it's public or not). You hang in there and keep your head held high. You're a remarkable woman who doesn't need a lowlife dragging her down. | ||
| kmk Supporter Username: Kmk Post Number: 771 Registered: 5-2001 |
las, I will give you a big high-5 and do a little fanny dance at the yard sale if I meet you (while looking for the frig of my dreams). | ||
| Lucy Supporter Username: Lucy Post Number: 1481 Registered: 5-2005 |
Bets you are the best las we are both very lucky to call her a friend. It is the begining for you without the dead weight you will be soaring to new heights! May all your new dreams come true... | ||
| ess Citizen Username: Ess Post Number: 257 Registered: 11-2001 |
See, Las, the end of your old relationship brought you all of us as new friends. Cheers for you!!!!!!!!!!!! | ||
| bets Supporter Username: Bets Post Number: 22444 Registered: 6-2001 |
I feel extremely fortunate to call you friend, too, Lucy & Las and everyone else I've met (and many I haven't yet). You have no idea how therapeutic and empowering it is. I've been emailed if I don't post for a few days or if I post something seemingly cryptic in my blog. It's very comforting knowing that people here care and I can pick up my phone to call someone or walk over to a friend's house and always be welcome. It's helped me regain my belief in true human kindness, after living a life involving the worst humankind has to offer. SO/Maplewoodonline has been a virtual umbilical cord for me these past 7-8 (60+?) months. Thank you. | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 521 Registered: 10-2003 |
In court today, Bets was more like a mom than a peer, soothing me, comforting me, saying the most encouraging words, all from a place of knowing. I rarely wonder about him, but today I wondered if he was curious as to who this person was accompanying me on this most important day, if he wondered what transpired in the past six months that we were intimate enough that I would bring her to this once in a lifetime event. Yet while I was wearing a gray skirt and sweater with red skin blotches and loafers, Bets wore the f@ck you outfit, swinging her long hair over her shoulder in one graceful f@ck you gesture. She didn't need the portfolio snap. So...now what? | ||
| bets Supporter Username: Bets Post Number: 22446 Registered: 6-2001 |
He was definitely wondering, and now he knows. You were very fortunate that he snapped up his attorney, and you somehow found MJ. She is a very impressive and supportive lawyer who has become a genuine friend. Good job! BTW, your comments in the antechamber were priceless. Keep that in mind every day - he's a self-aware, discontented and frustrated man and you are a vibrant, self-aware, healing woman. Who's better off? Methinks that would be you. | ||
| bets Supporter Username: Bets Post Number: 22447 Registered: 6-2001 |
Oh yeah, and I was wearing a f0ck you outfit? Droopy must be in.  | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 528 Registered: 10-2003 |
It would seem these past seven months I've been in a fog. I know that now because since court last week the fog seems to be lifting, revealing quite a bit of pain and clarity that I believe I was better off not experiencing. I am now suffering from a malaise. Also since court last week I've just been so tired. I go to bed by eight pm, I still wake up at least once an hour, and I am staying in bed until my alarm. My Sydney-cat, the love of my life, seems to have a significant attration to my new chair, and now, rather than spending the entire night curled up against my soul as she has for the past 13 years, she splits her time between me and the chair. And that doesn't make me feel rejected at all... I am now thinking about him more than I have for months. Wondering if he is aware of what he's done to me, that I missed the entire gardening season, that I don't have a sun parlor to do my homework in. Did I blow it? Should I have scolded him to come home on my birthday before he caused serious damage to our marriage? Was it my fault for insisting he brush his teeth before a.m. sex or shower before getting into bed after hockey on Sunday mornings? Should I have waited until he brought up his eating and exercise anxiety before expressing concern over his weight loss? Should I have enlisted the help of his family, implored them to butt into my business to help me bring him back home? His leaving was so ill-planned. He didn't even have a place to go, so he went to JESPY, where he coached sports. Maybe all he needed was for me to come after him - sometimes all we require is for someone to tell us what to do, and tell us how vital they are to our being. But I didn't do any of that. My world fogged over and I couldn't see a thing. He wouldn't talk to me direct, only in front of a therapist, and that was only about financials, not about what he'd done. Yesterday I went to a link he'd sent me ages ago that cited his name as creator of some crappy show on MTV. I learned the show was canceled while in development, and I am really glad to know that. I only wish failure upon him. So now, as the fog lifts a bit, I am feeling achier than ever, lonelier than I'd imagined, more pathetic than I thought possible. I really do just want to stay home and knit with my cats. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 1350 Registered: 8-2003 |
Las- you've experienced something dreadful and last week caused you grieve all over again. It's no wonder that you are in a depression! You can allow yourself to be in this depression, but only for a short while. Keep busy, see friends and feel useful. It's ok to be sad and lonely. you know as well as anyone that how you handled him leaving wouldn't have changed a damn thing, because it wasn't about you. It wasn't about whether or not you asked him to shower or brush his teeth. remember? he's gay. | ||
| Pippi Supporter Username: Pippi Post Number: 1351 Registered: 8-2003 |
oh, I should have also noted that I am sorry you are feeling this way. I hope you feel better soon. I am looking forward to next friday at Bunny's!! | ||
| las Citizen Username: Las Post Number: 529 Registered: 10-2003 |
Thank you, P. | ||
| redY67 Citizen Username: Redy67 Post Number: 4082 Registered: 2-2003 |
las you are a wonderful person, he is the idiot. Don't forget that. It doesn't matter what you did, or didn't do, it wouldn't have changed the outcome. He is the idiot, he is the one that should be feeling this pain. Friday at Bunnies is going to mark the start of a new and wonderous chapter in you life! |
